My grandma fell on December 1st. Since then I've had some relatives coming in and out who are no help. They walked into the house acting like they're the police and questioning about money and jewelry. My cousin went as far as to ask the aid if my grandmother was pushed.... The aid left my house in tears because she couldn't believe that my cousin would think any of us would purposely hurt my grandmother. My cousin also too pictures of my house and was sending them to her mother who then came over to do her own inspection. The rest of the night, my grandma kept yelling at us that she needed her shoes because she had to go to the bank. My uncle came back the following day and asked my aunt about my grandmother's diamond earrings. Insisting they were promised to him. (They never were, she bought him a diamond earring when he turned 60, and my cousin diamond earrings for her 21st birthday and gave money to a diamond tennis bracelet for my aunt.) he asked about other pieces of jewelry and other accounts as well and even came back the next day with his wife hoping that just my grandma and the aid were home so that my aunt could distract the aid and my uncle could snoop. I know it's my uncles mother, but my mom and aunt are fed up and I'm so upset that we've considered taking legal action to ban his family from coming here while only the aids are here. Should we take legal action? I'm convinced he already started taking pieces of jewelry, and it's not to keep, we know it's to sell because his family is in debt. I know I can't ask him about them because he's going to deny it and his daughter and wife will become irate and overreact.
I don't know what to do. Is there any advice anybody can give us?