You ask them how they are ‘you know the same just frustrated.' I just sit around. I posted about this earlier but my FIL is complaining about being at assisted living and how everyone there is old. He is just all depressed and then today he is saying how wonderful it is. So as my other post was about how I was worried about depression What do you all do when you really don’t know how they feel? I probably should have added this to my last question. I just don’t know and then someone said what about a therapist. He is not even going to remember talking to someone. Is this more of the brain damage declining or is it dementia. I hope this isn’t a stupid question, I have never been around anyone with dementia or Alzheimer’s. Again sorry if this sounds stupid.