When elderly parents live with their adult children who are their caregivers, and are disrespectful towards them and their friends. My mom who is 82 was living in Massachusetts on her own and was feeling she needed help, so she asked if she could live with my husband and I. We agreed, since we've cared for my father in law who had dementia and also for my dad for many years. Both have since passed on. So we moved her out of state and in with us. We have one roommate renting a room from us, which we've known for over 20 years, and my mom has a room to herself.
Within the first week of living with us, she informs us that (in her own words)
" I can't stand that idiot we have as a roommate." All within ear shot of our
friend. I took her aside and asked her why she felt that way. I told her how long we have known him, and that he is an honest and trustworthy individual. I also told her that we need that room rented out and could she try to be more respectful towards him. It's been one month now and she just ignores him and gives him the cold shoulder. When we come home from an outing or a doctor appointment and she sees his work truck she says " Looks like the asshole is home". Today she had another smart ass remark and I jumped down her throat for it. She says she dislikes him because when he comes home from work he has a couple of drinks,( doesn't get drunk) and he has a sleeved tattoo.
I don't want to put her in assisted living, but since she has been with us our home is not what it use to be. Calm quiet and relaxing. Do you think there is anyway I can get this grumpy odd lady I call my mom to change her way of thinking? She calls herself a God fearing Christian, and she does her bible devotions every night in her room. I've tried to tell her that this is no way for a God fearing Christian to act and reminded her what the bible says about respecting others, all to no avail. Has anybody else had to deal with a disrespectful parent? Please help!!