I am a caregiver for both my parents and live in their home. They are 81, I'm 43. My Mother is a sweetheart and very easy to care for. My Dad on the other hand(former alcoholic) wants me to call him whenever I leave the house and get to my destination. Whether it be running errands, meeting friends for dinner or even taking my own self to the doctor. It has made me so nervous I feel like I have to rush all the time. I tried telling him that I am very careful and not to worry about me, that him making me "check in" like that is unnerving. He told me that it's because he loves me, but that he's "pulling the shade" on me now and will stop caring. I feel guilty and have tried to talk to him some more to clarify what I meant, but I'm getting the cold shoulder. What can I do?