My father's personality has been changing over the last 5 years. He has had 3 surgeries in the past 3 years, and developed hospital psychosis after each one.
My parents also moved from the small town where they had lived their entire lives to live in the town where I live to be nearer for assistance if needed. He has always been very protective and loving to my mother during their marriage, but he's becoming completely argumentative and unreasonable with her. It is dawning on us that there is something going on here, most likely dementia related. It is highly doubtful that he would agree to seek medical attention, and he is of such a character of being "the man" and always right, stubborn, and unwilling to consider other's opinions, that we are reluctant to even broach the subject with him. My mother is devastated, as he has always gone overboard to take care of her. She is having difficulty recognizing that he is not deliberately trying to hurt her feelings; that he is ill and not himself. She is learning how to cope with him and how to go along with him for the most part when possible. With this particular situation, however, she does not know how to respond when he accuses her of infidelity, but dissolves into tears. We cannot think of any way to humor him out of this particular mindset!