What to do? Dad's 78 and GF 45 is cleaning him out? POA was refiled when I tried to check on finances. Any words of advice?

If your father does not have dementia, there is nothing you can do. Can you do an internet search or background check to see if she is a professional predator? Even if she is your dad may be too enamored to believe you. When he is broke and she inevitably abandons him please do not pay for any of his care. This disaster is of his own making and he will have to live with it. And unfortunately, so will you. I'm so sorry...it just sucks.

We need an Enigma Machine to sort this question out.

Does Dad have dementia? If he does it is time for finances with the POA to be taken over under the language of the document. Most POA are assigned when the person is well, but you can act in his best interests when dementia hits later. Then you would give Dad a small spending allowance and you would take over all bill paying and asset collection,keeping meticulous records. Now if Dad DOESN'T have dementia, then you have utterly no say in any of this, as it is his choice. I would simply sit him down in private and tell him that you worry that someone this much younger than him has more interest in his money than in anything else; that you could be right and you could be wrong. BUT that his giving money to this person means there will be no money left for his care should he need it, and it is money you cannot and will not replace, so he may be left destitute in his time of need when this much younger woman will move on with a life. That basically is the truth. So the way to proceed depends upon your father's mental capacity at this time. The POA doesn't give you the right to act in his interest if he is still capable of making his own decisions, even if they are bad decisions.

No matter what you meant by "refiled", if your father was diagnosed with dementia/Alzheimer's, I'd notify Social Services (agency for elder protection) or the police and make a report that the GF may be taking financial advantage of your father.

Some states have laws placing such people in a protected class to prevent them from being taken advantage of. Let the pros check the situation.

In reading some later comments that your dad has dementia/ALZ, then if your dad was diagnosed with it before he revised/revoked your PoA (and it is in his medical records) you may have a case but it is your burden to provide the proof of abuse/crime. I would consult with an attorney that specializes in elder financial abuse.

You do need to clarify "refiled".

If Dad has Dementia, he can't revolk a POA. Your POA allows you to take over once Dad is not competent to make his own decisions. Some financial institutions may ask that a POA be updated if drawn up years before. To do this, you go to the lawyer who drew it up or just another lawyer. He may need to say that the POA is now enforced since person cannot make informed decisions.

You could call APS and ask them to evaluate the situation.

Well, profile states that Dad has alzheimer's / dementia. What we don't know is how advanced or is his condition in the beginning stages in which Dad knows what he is doing?

We also don't know the truth about the relationship between Dad and his girlfriend. Maybe it's a healthy relationship where Dad is very happy and daughter is just looking to get his money instead of the girlfriend or vice versa.

So many unknowns and/or variables that I really can't give sage advice unless I knew more about this situation or I would be playing the guessing game in which I do not like doing. I prefer the facts.

Hope you find your answers,
Jenna

Refiled means to file again. From the wording of the OP it sounds like daughter was POA and then refiled to girlfriend as POA. I think the op needs to come back to clarify if this is what she means so we don’t have to guess. It sounds like daughter was checking on dads finance just to find out she wasn’t POA anymore, the girlfriend has POA. Please come back to clarify OP.

None of us have any idea what you are suggesting happened to his POA. Were you the POA? Are you no longer the POA? Who IS the POA now. Does Dad have dementia of any kind. If someone changed the POA with a man who has dementia then you need a LAWYER NOW. Right away. Open a case with Adult Protective Service as well, if the POA is dabbled with and Dad has dementia. Also the bank should tell you, if you were previously doing the financial work, at which date all that changed. If this is a case where dementia is involved you need to get to work as in "yesterday".

I would contact an elder lawyer ASAP. It sounds like she is scamming him. Does your father have his mind? Is he competent? If not, she is scamming him. If your dad is competent, he is free to give his girlfriend ALL of his money. Everything hinges on your fathers frame of mind. Is he coherent? Is he competent? Can he make his own decisions? If not, she is scamming him and you need an elder lawyer ASAP!!!!