My dad won't accept that he's losing his memory and refuses help. What can I do?

I am sorry for your loss and the heartbreak you are enduring. Have you taken him to a neurologist? Sometimes reading the results of various scans and hearing it from a medical professional helps, but does not fix this problem. See they forget at times what they have been told, and just when you think things are about to get better, they relapse. My mother's dementia is to the point now where it is most apparent. In the beginning, because of her career in nursing and working with ALZ and dementia patients, she knew all the right words. Her providers were not even convinced, let alone family members. You cannot fix it, nor can you fix your father. Essentially, you will need to learn how to cope. I cannot advise you the best way to do this, as I am still trying to figure it out myself. Just remember, he cannot help it, he cannot control it, and neither can you. Be brave, pray endlessly, and read as much as you can about the disease. My thoughts and prayers are you with.

Kim

I just obtained guardianship over my mother and had to place her in a memory care ALF. It was SOO hard. SHe has only been there 4 days and she hates me. BUT...it is what HAD to be done. My head knows this but the heart is a different story. You have to cut ties as the child and reinvent the wheeel as the adult and just take care of what HE NEEDS, not what he wants. What he wants no longer matters unfortunately. Keeping him safe is now what matters most and keeping your sanity. You are not alone! Hang in there.

My mother is the same way. She still drives, and is still lively. When I have questioned her about her memory. She has accused me of being 'perfect'. That I think I am always right. She will start a task. Then like a toddler. She will suddenly start something else, and completely forget why she started the first task in the first place.

You can get Guardian status and move him. If you do nothing, pretty soon the cops will call APS and they will move him.