He follows me on my heels and I can barely move in the kitchen. He paces in circles and won't let me get around him he hides in closets and watches me eat and says ha ha I caught you.He gets irate when I tell him to sit down. It's a huge fight to take a shower. He screamed the entire time I used a shower. I have not had one In almost a week because he gets so angry when I shower or pee. He says I am stalking him by walking around the hallway to the bathroom using the shower??? He stands in the middle of the hallway with. A flashlight and won't move. Asks me where I am going ,? What am I doing here? Which room am I going in ? He does this for at least a half hour and won't move.Yesterday He would not let out of my room for hours he said I was 'bad'and I don't get to eat supper or leave my room until I act happier and admit he was a great dad and was always a little psych patient he calls me all kinds of slurs like the r----d b---h . I ended up crying and said you weren't you and mom were terrible because they were. I want to leave but if I do who will take care of him he doesn't have enough to go in a facility.
If you are going to let dementia run the show, then this is the result.
You are not safe, you don’t deserve this and this is not sustainable.
What is your plan?
Send him to the hospital. Have his case manager get him on Medicaid and into a nursing home. Tell them it’s an “unsafe discharge” (because it is— living with him is very unsafe for you. Tell them you are afraid of him— because people with dementia do kill their caregivers sometimes).