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A sister and I have applied for conservativeship (or however you say it!) for just my Mom. Dad's reasoning ability gone. Has two leases on two cars that he does not need to be driving at all. We've already had DMV send letter revoking license; he has 30 days to appeal. Don't know if he has reasoning enough to do so; regardless he'll have to take a test. (will probably fail). Mom totally on wheelchair/occasional walker - two broken hips, two back surgeries; mental illness issues, and obviously totally dependent upon him. He is now making her choose the family or himself; says he's moving her into apt. he's already rented. It's an hour away both ways. There will be no 24 hour care as he has now; he thinks he can hire people but does not have the money (and is in debt without even mentioning the auto leases). I have been reading up on procedures in Georgia and now wonder, if we get conservativeship, and he moves her anyway (to a different county from where they are now) will he be in civil contempt? If so, what action will be taken? And what will our legal choices be when our time cushion runs out? We have not had to pay so far for conservativeship. He says they're moving tomorrow. State sent someone to evaluate Mom this morning; I am sure they found her upset; lately she's been saying she wants to die, and Dad is furious with all of us and sent letters out to relatives (who have nothing to do with the situation) saying all of us are crazy. We have been calm and loving in our approach. We don't want Mom any more upset than she already is. Are we doomed to hiring an elder attorney?

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I would believe you need an attorney. If you can't afford one, contact your local Bar Association or State Bar Association to see if they have attorneys who work "Pro Bono" or for free. I think you're in Cumming, GA. Here's a link to a non-profit that lists free legal counseling: http://www.faithshouseinc.org/links.html

Or can you start with whoever you used to help you file the conservator paperwork for your mom? Were you able to do that without an attorney? You said it didn't cost you anything, I'd say start with those resources. Good luck!!
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Do you have a couple of burly guy friends you can post in your dads path. if he touches them to try to pass by, its assault and they can call 911. Meanwhile, you go to the County District Attorney, show them the detail on your upcoming conservatorship, and ask about an emergency restraining order. Someone with that same paperwork should stand by at the scene with your dad and the burly guys to be able to explain to the police that you are at the district attorney's office. Your early friends should not touch your father except to restrain him if he touches them first and to call 911. Your father may be enough out of it that too strong looking guys might make him put of his decision long enough to give you a chance to get what you need me go in place.
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You say you have "applied" for conservatorship, but has it been granted yet? And why didn't you include your deluded father? Anyone who is in need of mental health care (be it dementia, another mental illness, brain tumor, etc.) deserves to be supervised by more prevailing heads. Disregard any mention of anyone (strong burly guys) who can force anyone to do anything. Chaos will arise, and someone may be seriously hurt or killed. Go to the house, try to calm your father, and if he continues to resist, call police. Since his sanity is in question, let the police take him to a psychiatric hospital to have him evaluated for 72 hrs., take your mother to a safe location, and wait for the Court's order. If she is competent, have her sign POA documents for you and/or your sister. Family disputes are never easy and this could escalate into something deadly, so tread very carefully as the well-being of both your parents rests with you and your sister. My prayers will be with you as you resolve this conflict.
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if your mom is competent, have her turn poa and mpoa over to you. this way you have all the say and your dad will not, will keep you in my prayers
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Golly, gee, whiz, ferris. I didn't tell anyone to FORCE anyone else. I would appreciate it if you would kindly not put words in my mouth.
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I read through some of your posts. I never could glean how old your parents are. I went through some of this a couple of years ago with my Dad and his wife. My dad even got taken to jail from driving erratically. He is 74 now. His wife died and he stayed on his on(near a cousin) for about 9 months. He was wildly off of his insulin and his blood sugar spike to +700. Anyway, the best thing that happened is that someone contacted Adult protective services and they had the Dr declare dad incapacitated. The dominoes fell into place. Up until that time I got about 20 different stories from everyone and their mother. How he had to be willing to go into a nursing home even though he was delusional wandering around the yard at 4 in the morning seeing things. He did all kinds of crazy things and I am happy to say that he is right where he needs to be in a nursing home. He hates it but he needs it.
Anyway, For APS was a lifesaver. They know what can be done. I wouldn't hesitate to call them and report your father if you have to. Especially because he is the POA for your mother and his own dr indicated that he was not all there. They will know what you can and can't do. I hear horror stories about state agencies but this time they made all the difference.
What about asking the sherrif's office to help collect your mother? If there is a court order they might do it. I wish you all the best with this. keep us posted. peace and luck - BG
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Now you need to call the police in there new jurisdiction, explain the court order you have and ask them what to do. Some burley policeman may help you now.
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God bless you all!! Yes she was moved and it is a mess. We did retain an attorney. APS has been notified in both counties (where they were, and where they went) and so has the local law enforcement. We could have forced the issue yesterday, but we were uncertain just what we would do as Mom now doesn't have a place locked down. We're working on that. Mom and Dad are 85 and 86 respectively.
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Anytime there is burly person who looks intimidating, one can perceive a threat and be threatened. Leave out the burly guys.
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opps weneedanswers I just saw your next post....he did it, he actually moved her...ugh..I agree with Carollynn . Their local police should be aware of the situation. They should be able to direct you to your next step. Also APS should get involved to make sure Mom is getting the care she needs. What a mess...keep us posted. I promise (time is an issue for me) I'll try to read all the posts.
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