Dad is in a nursing home but doesn't like the food. What can I do?

I feel the same way about the food bring served at my Mother's care home. No seasoning, terrible unbalanced combination. I complain. I visit late afternoons and am there to feed my Mother her dinner. I took a photo with iPhone and texted it to the owner's assistant. Did they do anything? No , they placate ME!
What I do is take her a couple of meals every week that I prepare, which honestly, is better than most restaurants. She eats it much more enthusiastically than the blasé food usually served. I can't do it every day, but delicious food twice a week is better than never.
I think they figure the elderly women who can't communicate anymore must not care. I can't live with that, so I speak up. Constantly. I'm a real pain:) xo

The other night, i was watching a Teepa Snow YouTube video. After the 3rd time, I figured that I wasn't retaining what I'm watching. So, I took a notebook and took notes on her videos. She said that when we get older and have dementia, the dementia is damaging our brain. One of the sense of tastes that remains the strongest is Bitterness. And that is why you see them put lots of suger and salt in their coffee, food, etc...She said that the things that they didn't like before - now they really don't like it. And what they once liked, they now dislike. And what they might like today, they will dislike tomorrow. For my father, he can't stand sweet, so most of his favorite food are salty - pizza, sausages, etc..He would drown his food with catsup. ....The NH and you may need to experiment on his food. Remember - what he may like today, he may dislike tomorrow.

Too often nursing homes are prisons for the old. They really don't care if you like the slop or not. I would never allow any relative of mine to go into one but I visit them (with therapy dogs) as a volunteer and having been invited to eat there, I decline. It is good that your dad's nursing home at least is open to options. A friend of ours has his mother in a nursing home and all of the sons go visit her daily. She hates the food there too and they don't make sure she has water within reach so when they get there, she is dying of thirst. They worked out a deal that meals she likes will be delivered to her and they themselves carry food in to her and feed her. They got a reduction on her fees due to her not using the meals there. She benefits from having better food and seeing her boys twice a day instead of once.

I visited regularly in a nursing home, and expect to end my days in one. The food at the one I visited was really pretty bad, at least some of every meal. My friend always had peanut butter and Glucerna available. Good luck trying to get him tasty food.

Not to be too much of a jerk, but depending on your Dad's age and health, why does he have to eat healthy food? The part of my life that I will spend in a nursing home is one period I won't want to prolong. Who cares if I die at 86 instead of 89? Not me! Let him eat whatever he likes that won't immediately hurt him.

My mother doesn't like the food in the NH either. But so what else is new. She never liked the restaurant food, or what I cooked either. She is a very picky eater, always has been. The doc gave her some meds to enhance her appetite. Now she eats better, especially sugary things.

I just don't know. I hate when questions go unanswered, though. It sounds like the NH is willing to adapt though , which is great. Will he really let himself starve? Or do you think once he gets hungry enough he will eat. With kids you can kinda play the game of waiting them out if they are picky eaters and they will usually eat when hungry enough but with elders I don't suppose that is a good idea. Do you think this is more of a behavioral thing-like he is spoiled -for lack of a better word-or does he really have an aversion to certain foods? Textures? Some people have tactile issues with eating. If I get any gristle in a bite of meat -it is all over-I cannot eat anymore. I am very picky about my meat. I can only eat poultry and seafood, usually. If I do have beef it has to be filet. I KNOW I am such a brat! And -pulp -forget about it!!!

Just wait. When the nursing home and staff are doing everything they can to please his palate, he relishes the attention. When he gets hungry enough, he will eat. Taste buds do change as one ages and things have to be doctored in order to really "taste" food. Buy him some spices, hot sauce, relish and see if they might improve the food for him. Then do nothing. If he doesn't want to eat staff will find a way to feed him. Good luck!

@ Christina W I am a pain too. Placate is a good description; sometimes worse.

Now to answer the question; there are a few residents who have their minds but something physical is wrong with them but they are mobile. They didnt care for the food either so the family purchased dorm sized fridges. In the fridges are foods the resident likes and can help themselves to. If your lo cannot act on his/her own place the liked food items in their and ask the serving cna's to give it your your dad. Bananas are good for the end table that they can give him. At our NH there is an alternative menu item always so the resident (or you) can ask for that. Ours also provides peanut butter and jelly upon request. Another family member brings his mother a baked potato every early evening. Some cities have delivery organizations that will deliver food from any restaurant you want to order from. Perhaps you could schedule this for 1x per day; his favorite italian restaurant etc. If he can help himself the fridge is a good idea cuz he could select with the help of cna what he wants. Unfortunately I would hate it at a NH too. I eat what moves me on a given day which does not happen at a NH. Also, perhaps you could check your jobs lists and see if there is a companion type person for hire that would perhaps 1x a week bring a food item to your father or entire meal. Delivered pizza?

It has been my experience that often times a person does not complain about their real problem. It could me more than food or other than food. It sounds like you and the staff are going the right way to find a solution. Keep your dad in the loop as much as possible.

Before I came to take care of my mother I arranged for meals to be delivered. She did not like them at all. They used no salt or seasoning when they cooked, and if you don't use salt while cooking, you can put a pound of it on after it is cooked and still doesn't taste good. Perhaps they have to ask for their food to be seasoned, some places do two batches.