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I have had problems with my father who is long distance from me, for quite some time. He hates me for reasons I don't understand. I won't give him my regular phone number, but I give him access to my magic jack number for emergencies, which is never plugged in and he leaves abusive messages on it and threats. He has 2 people taking care of him, more than I will ever have but they don't stop him from threatening. Should I cut him off completely? He does not go for medical care because he doesn't want to get caught with his alcoholism and I have called Adult Protective Services but they won't tell me if he's being taken care of adequately.

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yeah i had to reread your post ... he needs to be kicked to the curb... change all your phone numbers and let him wallow in his own misery ... furrr get him .. get that monkey off your back ... keep us posted on how you are .. yeah why do you have to deal with him ...
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What a terrible experience to have your father behaving this way. Maybe it's the alcohol talking. Alcohol can turn people into beasts. You can't make him give it up, though. I wish he could get into a 12-step program, but it will be up to him. In your shoes, I'd get another magic jack and toss out the first one after cancelling that account.
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Sounds no different than a child who does bad things to get attention.... it's the attention they want.
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yeah i see he only wants to hurt you ... just change your number .. yup change your number
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Remove the buttons and get a zipper. Zip your phone, zip your email, zip your ears and change your zip if you have to .
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Jeanne, he calls someone he hates because he wants to push my buttons and argue, that's why. He's always done that to people.
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Thank you Pam! He only wants to hurt me, so why do I give him the chance to hurt me. I will look for an Al Anon group. Thanks again.
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FIDO: Forget It Drive On. Maybe go to an Al-Anon meeting. You are not alone.
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He doesn't really have a "caregiver," he has a girlfriend who lives nearby who has cancer, and my brother, who has POA and stops by every once in awhile. I was turned away at the security gate when I tried to go see my father.
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If he hates you, I would think he would be the one breaking all connections. Why does he continually call someone he hates?

But since he isn't being logical, you should be. Change phone numbers. If you want, you could give the new phone number to his caregiver, in case of a drastic change in the situation (if you would want to be notified).
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Yup, cut him off, delete delete delete. Or set it to FAX and walk away.
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don't tell the caregivers make it a surprise visit
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you should call adult protective services to check on him and his care givers. he needs to be checked on .
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