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He is a bud lite guy dad has drank since he was 14 yrs old his doc said 3 or 4 beers was fine over the last several months he has increased his intake to cut him back is a battle that is almost impossible to win as in his mind I'm still his 16 ur old son that Dont know anything is he to old to put in a in-house rehab I have to realize he dose not have his mind about him an b 4 I stepped in 2 yrs ago him an his wife (not my mother) spent every day at the gulf club of local tavern she was put in a place for lod timers what can or should I do to stop the cycle thanks. Beeker

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At this stage of the game, rehab is not going to restore any function for him. You might want to ask the MD about thiamine (vitamin B1) injections or supplements, as alcoholics tend to deplete B1 and that leads to memory loss.
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How is he getting the beer? Is he still driving? If someone is getting it for him, you could talk to them and let him know what the doctor said, and ask them not to continue doing that. I feel for you. Ultimately, he is a grown man and unless he's been declared incompetent, there's not much you can do about it; he will make his own decisions about what goes into his body. It's hard to accept...I've been through the same thing with my mom. She no longer drinks, thank goodness, but drinking and smoking have taken their toll on her body, and lately the struggles have been over her diet. But ultimately it's her decision and she is the one who will have to live (or die) with the consequences. Hang in there and keep posting to let us know how he's doing. This is such a wonderful site and it really helps to know that you're not alone :)
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At this stage of his life, why deprive him of something he enjoys? It certainly isn't going to make any difference in his condition. Just as long as he doesn't have a car or access to one. What is it with Americans born and raised in the USA?? Too many lack empathy, understanding and basic common sense.
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Does he drink from the can, would he notice if you substitute non alcohol beer later in the day?
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I doubt rehab would help.
In order to stop an addiction you have to want to stop. He might not want to stop..at this point.
Is he still driving? If not who is providing the beer?
If he is still driving you will get quite a few comments that he should not be driving. Simple facts..should not be driving while drinking, that is the obvious one. With the dementia his judgement is further impaired. And the Parkinson's also makes it a bit risky.
Have you talked to the doctors about him driving?
It is tough to remove another means of keeping his independence.
Has he been evaluated for depression? That might be the reason for his increase in drinking.
(Faster way to end your life knowing you have not 1 but 2 conditions that will lead to total decline and dependence upon others)
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As someone who has been sober in AA for 41 years, I agree with both writers above. My late husband who had Parkinson's and did not drink, lacked the capacity to respond in time when a teenage driver ran a red light and rearended his vehicle. If my husband had rear seat passengers they would have been killed.
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i agree with a couple of people here...if he enjoys his beer and is NOT driving...after all these years...why try to get him sober? i'm pretty sure you would not be able to anyway...and getting sober for an alcoholic is hell on you!! once your parent is bedridden...you won't want him to live a long time like that...nor do i think he would either!!
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How old is your dad? If he's over 80, I would give him his 6-pack a day. That's it. One 6-pack of beer a day. That should see him out of this mortal coil in relative comfort, don't you think? Any damage that has been done, is done. He is never going to 'get all better', go through re-hab and get a whole healthy new outlook on life, be the picture of health after quitting the booze. Let him have his 6-pack and let him go out as he wishes, not as you wish. (I am going to assume he is elderly, 80 or so, and I think when people get to be 80 or so they should eat, drink, smoke, or whatever they want because, what difference does it make at this point? If he's still in his 60's or even 70, there's still a chance he could sober up and live another 10-20 years. Do you and he want to go for that chance?
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Dad already has three strikes against him, Dementia, parkinson and alcoholism. Add those together and after all these years he probably has some liver and possibly brain damage. Does he smoke as well? I have found most alcoholics do. if so another strike.
I must ask if you or your girlfriend have any addictive behaviors that you could have inherited.
You may not want to put him in a facility but it may be getting close to the time if you are both out all day working. He really is not safe to be left alone all day. Try and think about the future. if he is still reasonably healthy and safe enough at home just let him have his beer, he has little else left in life.
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No she is just staying to help outcfor a while dad dont smoke an yes i was blessed with the addition gene but have been a good guy for over 16 yrs with no slips addition runs long an deep in the males in our family im home all the time 24/7 dads care giver no breaks or help till my girl showed up 2 month ago
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