Dad has Parkinson's and early dementia.

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He is a bud lite guy dad has drank since he was 14 yrs old his doc said 3 or 4 beers was fine over the last several months he has increased his intake to cut him back is a battle that is almost impossible to win as in his mind I'm still his 16 ur old son that Dont know anything is he to old to put in a in-house rehab I have to realize he dose not have his mind about him an b 4 I stepped in 2 yrs ago him an his wife (not my mother) spent every day at the gulf club of local tavern she was put in a place for lod timers what can or should I do to stop the cycle thanks. Beeker

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Antabuse is NOT an alcohol withdrawal medication!!! This is a very dangerous thing to say about that drug. Alcohol withdrawal can be deadly and needs to be handled by a protocol of benzodiazepines NOT antabuse!!! Antabuse is a drug given to people who are ALREADY sober and past the point of withdrawal. It causes the person to get extremely ill if they drink...and it can itself cause liver and kidney damage, seizure and psychosis...you should really do your research before yo post such dangerous and inaccurate information.

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Cdtrog1957: I'm assuming that you hit a typo a few times and meant to write addiction.
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No she is just staying to help outcfor a while dad dont smoke an yes i was blessed with the addition gene but have been a good guy for over 16 yrs with no slips addition runs long an deep in the males in our family im home all the time 24/7 dads care giver no breaks or help till my girl showed up 2 month ago
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Dad already has three strikes against him, Dementia, parkinson and alcoholism. Add those together and after all these years he probably has some liver and possibly brain damage. Does he smoke as well? I have found most alcoholics do. if so another strike.
I must ask if you or your girlfriend have any addictive behaviors that you could have inherited.
You may not want to put him in a facility but it may be getting close to the time if you are both out all day working. He really is not safe to be left alone all day. Try and think about the future. if he is still reasonably healthy and safe enough at home just let him have his beer, he has little else left in life.
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How old is your dad? If he's over 80, I would give him his 6-pack a day. That's it. One 6-pack of beer a day. That should see him out of this mortal coil in relative comfort, don't you think? Any damage that has been done, is done. He is never going to 'get all better', go through re-hab and get a whole healthy new outlook on life, be the picture of health after quitting the booze. Let him have his 6-pack and let him go out as he wishes, not as you wish. (I am going to assume he is elderly, 80 or so, and I think when people get to be 80 or so they should eat, drink, smoke, or whatever they want because, what difference does it make at this point? If he's still in his 60's or even 70, there's still a chance he could sober up and live another 10-20 years. Do you and he want to go for that chance?
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Thanklessjob: The name of the alcohol withdrawal medication is called "Antabuse."
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Cdtrog: It's not a "church thing." We are a bible-based addiction support group in all ways- overeating, overspending, alcohol, drugs, OCD, et al.
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tacy022: Of course this happened! I'm not surprised at all! Take the booze away.
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Thank u to every one who put in there 2 cents an just so u all know i took dads driving privalage as soon as i brought him in my home as me an my girlfreind were almost killed when a 87 yr old woman hit us head on an my bike was going to let that happen so i know the easy thing would just let him go on doing what he has been doing the six pack a day sounded good also but i think i will see what doc thinks the church thing no good after his scond wife passed he lost all faith so thank everyone i will reread what u all wrote incase i misded something
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Hi Cdtrog1957,
If the "1957" in your screen name is the year you were born, then we're the same age. Your dad must be around 82-88 yrs. old.
I had the same problem with my dad. He had a TIA (a mini stroke) and had to live in a board and care facility. He drank alcohol all of his adult life. His favorite was vodka but, in the later years, it packed too much of a punch, and he couldn't drink that in the facility, so he switched to beer. His doc knew he was an alcoholic, so he said 2-3 beers a day. Somehow that didn't happen. I found out that my ex husband would bring him beer and or take him out to buy it! He KNEW the rules but decided to break them. I wouldn't be surprised if one or two of the workers there also picked it up because he was generous with the money if you'd do him the favor.

That said, if your father is drinking 4+ beers a day, his body is used to (addicted to) the alcohol in the beer. In my opinion, it is NOT a good idea to withhold or stop giving him beer without medical supervision due to the possibility of going into withdrawal (DT's, delirium tremons, a common condition causing hallucinations and wild behavior when alcohol is stopped abruptly.) If you want to force him to quit, you MUST get his doctor to assist with withdrawal medication. I would be very nervous to try this at home. Better to place him in a detox (and beyond) program. They will be able to deal with his other medical conditions also. My dad went in in his early 80's so he could take a medication for his ulcer that couldn't be takern if you were drinking alcohol. He did great but on discharge day, he asked me to stop at the liquor store!!! That's how it is for them, their whole life revolves around booze.

Is he driving? (I hope not.) If he is, call his doctor to see if he can declare that he should no longer be driving. They send their medical order to the DMV, so his license will be suspended. At least he'll be off the road.

From what I've observed, alcoholics are going to find a way to drink, if you buy it or not. He won't be interested in stopping. Get his license taken away and put up with him having a 6 pack a day. If you buy it, ONLY buy one 6 pack a day!! Unfortunately that means a trip to the store daily but at least that will be all that is available. Been there, done that, good luck.
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