I have been my Dad's POA for both healthcare and finances. He is getting a divorce from his wife and had no place to live. My sisters and I cannot and will not let him live with any of us. Our husbands say NO. My dad cannot take care of himself. He is 78 years old and has dimentia. I put him in a nursing home and he hated it. He checked himself out against drs. and my wishes. He then ended up on her doorstep and later in jail with a no contact order out on him. He can't barely walk without his walker and doesn't know anything about the 13 meds he takes. He says he will live in a motel room but has no money until divorce is settled in Oct. She wants him to have nothing and just go to nursing home and live on Medicaid. I think an assisted living would be best for him, but he cannot afford one right now and he smokes. I put him in a nursing home for now until the divorce is over. He agreed and went there. After 1 week he was calling me to bring him his car and let him go live in a motel room. I contacte his dr. and took him in for a visit to see what the dr. said. He said no to living alone and no driving until he has taken a driving test to prove he was a safe driver. He calls me every other day and says to come and get him out of there. It is a nice home and he has made friends there, even a girl friend. He changes his mind every day about things and doesn't make sense with what he says. Then he makes statements about just getting a gun and shooting her and then himself. I cannot take him out of the nursing home and let him go with no place to live, no one to give him his pills, and not safe to drive on the roads. Now his lawyer called me and said he fired me and is having paperwork drawn up so I am no longer his power of attorney. He says it is all my fault his is in the nursing home. After his divorce is final and he gets part of her wealth, he could go to an assisted living and maybe be happy there. I just cannot get him to have patience and wait until Oct. What can I do? He needs a POA from our family and no one else will have anything to do with him. Any ideas would be appreciated. I am just about to have a break down myself!
