Can my Dad fire me as his POA when he cannot make sane decisions on where he will live?

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I have been my Dad's POA for both healthcare and finances. He is getting a divorce from his wife and had no place to live. My sisters and I cannot and will not let him live with any of us. Our husbands say NO. My dad cannot take care of himself. He is 78 years old and has dimentia. I put him in a nursing home and he hated it. He checked himself out against drs. and my wishes. He then ended up on her doorstep and later in jail with a no contact order out on him. He can't barely walk without his walker and doesn't know anything about the 13 meds he takes. He says he will live in a motel room but has no money until divorce is settled in Oct. She wants him to have nothing and just go to nursing home and live on Medicaid. I think an assisted living would be best for him, but he cannot afford one right now and he smokes. I put him in a nursing home for now until the divorce is over. He agreed and went there. After 1 week he was calling me to bring him his car and let him go live in a motel room. I contacte his dr. and took him in for a visit to see what the dr. said. He said no to living alone and no driving until he has taken a driving test to prove he was a safe driver. He calls me every other day and says to come and get him out of there. It is a nice home and he has made friends there, even a girl friend. He changes his mind every day about things and doesn't make sense with what he says. Then he makes statements about just getting a gun and shooting her and then himself. I cannot take him out of the nursing home and let him go with no place to live, no one to give him his pills, and not safe to drive on the roads. Now his lawyer called me and said he fired me and is having paperwork drawn up so I am no longer his power of attorney. He says it is all my fault his is in the nursing home. After his divorce is final and he gets part of her wealth, he could go to an assisted living and maybe be happy there. I just cannot get him to have patience and wait until Oct. What can I do? He needs a POA from our family and no one else will have anything to do with him. Any ideas would be appreciated. I am just about to have a break down myself!

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Get an attorney that specializes in elder law. File against your brother for Breach of Fiduciary Duty and Financial Exploitation. If you have proof the DA may even investigate. A few years back there was a woman in Golden that was exploiting her mom and ended up in prison.
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My brother has medical and financial power of attorney, yet she is living in filth. He does not take her to the doctor. I took her to the doctor and he refused to give me the insurance information. He then scolded me for taking my 90 mother, who said her head hurt and felt dizzy, to the doctor. He said I'm just over reacting and that I should just give her some water. My other brother, who lives with her, is trying to prevent me from visiting. When I am there, I clean the sheets and the bathrooms. He feels threatened by this, as the house is willed to him. I believe that my mother was coached into this will and would never leave me out. She told me she wanted everything divided equally and was unaware that the house goes to him. Her retirement was to go to me and my other brother who has POA. However, my oldest brother has drained her accounts to practically nothing. What can I do?
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I have POA over my alcoholic mom and dad with dementia, they are together in an assisted living that specializes in dementia. My brother and I have been made the trustees of their estate because their living will states that if 2 different Drs declare them incompetent, we take over. My mother was forced by APS out of her home last July after numerous incidences of her being passed out on the urine and feces covered floor of her home, while dad had gone to buy her more wine with no drivers license, insurance or valid car registration. Dad would be pulled over by police that would drive him home, then call me to pick up his parked car, with no incident, making it impossible to convince dad he can't drive with his revoked license! Now an omnibudsperson has been called by my mother who is demanding to go home so she can drink and this person is telling me I must now go thru a conservator ship to keep them safe in assisted living?? I have 2 different dr's letters stating they r incompetent to make health or financial decisions, their POA is revoke able as long as they r competent, which they r clearly not?? When APS got involved they told me to conserve them or they would, now I'm being forced to because of the omnibudsman?? APS stated they will not get involved in writing a letter stating they can't return back home, however once they do go home, my brother and I can call and they will get involved once history repeats itself??? So now I'm being forced to fight for conservator ship?
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She has a tether on her ankle? Have you seen this gor yourself, or are you taking your frien's word for that? Does she have dementia?

If your friend has been declared incompetent, and has a guardian (whether her daughter or an appointed guardian) then they have control of her in the way that a parent has over a minor child, as to where she lives.

I would sympathize with your friend in conversation, but try to steer the conversation towards the activities that she enjoys at the facility.
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Can you just walk out of a Nursing Home if you have been declared incompetent ?
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i have a dear friend that is in a nursing home, she fell in love with a man in her apartment where she lived before she was placed in the nursing home, her daughter put her in the nursing home to keep her from this man, that she loves dearly, her daughters will not allow her to have any contact with this man at all, they went as far as putting a ppo out on this 82 yr old man to them to away from each other, they are both so heartbroken, they did say that she is incompetent, can she still leave the nursing home to live her life, not to mention they also have a tether on her ankle, its like she is a prisoner in there, its not fair what they have done to her, and him, what can we do to help, please gave me some advise, i promised her i would get her out of there, she was happy for the first time in a long time, when she fell in love with this man
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I am POA for my sister. She has dementia and is in an assisted living situation. My brother and his wife are trying to convince her to come and live with them. Those two do not want to co-operate with the rest of the siblings or my sisters children. They continually interfere with the process we have set up. They are confusing my sister and working on her to leave the care center. As POA what can I do to stop them from taking her out of the center or even stop them from seeing her?
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his statement about wanting to get a gun and kill himself and another person is grounds enough to consider him a danger to himself and others as well as to have him given a psychological examination in the psych ward of a hospital. Does the nursing home he is in know of his plans?
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If you can, dis-associate yourself from him and all his affairs. He is in the crash-and-burn phase. Adult Protective Services will need to corral him at some point. Warn them if he has a gun. He's still sane enough to appear in charge of his own affairs but he's too demented to have any sense left. Report him to APS, write a letter to his treating doctor that your relative is making decisions dangerous to himself and others, put his car in storage away from your home and don't take phone calls from him. I'm sorry, this is a very tough stage with stubborn, resistant seniors who refuse good advice and act out like a spoiled 2 year old. Put the responsibility on the professionals, the doctors, case managers, and APS. Save your own mental health.
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Glafar, Who is the patient? Is it a relative?

You may not be able to find out unless you have the patient's permission to know their medical information. If they have a caregiver, the caregiver probably knows the diagnosis.
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