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Just under a year Brother’s partner has been gaslighting our Dad, we got video evidence that she was destroying his plants, Brother went mad, screamed at his Dad making him cry, he wouldn’t believe Dad that she was doing these things, she is a train driver, can I report her to HR for the railway, as it is in the hands of Social Services on file, Dad doesn’t want to go ahead just yet, as she has won and Dad is being evicted from the bungalow at the bottom of garden, he doesn’t want to move but has no choice, I don’t feel he is safe, as they ripped down the cameras ,police and social not happy either with them

Your story is very confusing to me. If I understand correctly, your brothers girlfriend was caught on camera destroying your dads plants and now you want to report her to HR for doing that. Is that right? And why would her place of employment care if she killed someone's plants? That's where I'm confused I guess.
But bottom line your dad now needs a safe and drama free place to live where he can take care of his plants by himself. I wish you well in finding your dad a new peaceful place to live.
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lkdrymom Aug 31, 2025
I know that whole plant tangent had me really confused. What does her job have to do with any of this??
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Drama triangle warning ⚠️

Side 1 : Victim
Side 2 : Villan (or two)
Side 3 : Rescuer

It is clear who is who here.
What is NOT clear is the REAL reason Dad is being 'evicted'.

Reporting the GF (to HR.. what?) will do what? Just fuel more drama.

A productive way for the OP to proceed would be to help Dad work to repair his relationship with Bro + GF. If not possible, help him to look at other realistic home options.
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If social services is in the mix, that's as much as you can do for Dad.

You "don't feel he is safe" so do you mean still being in the bungalow with the bro and gf? Or safe to move out on his own? If APS is involved, then it's as good as it's going to get. The police or an employer won't care about who destroyed someone's plant, evidence or not.
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So you have the police and Social Services involved, not sure what else can be done.

No, you don't go to her job and complain. Her job has no controll over her private life. There is an eviction process that has to be followed. It could take months.
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Why would dad want to stay in such a situation, I dont get it? Dont report the gf to her employer, that makes no sense on any level. Your post is disjointed.....we don't know if dad is okay enough to live independently or not. If so, find him other accommodations bc the current one is not working out, obviously.

Good luck to you.
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