I've never been so unhappy...this is ruining my life.
My 80 year old father has been living with us (my husband and toddler son) for 8 months now. We 'rescued' him from terrible living conditions with my brother. I've never been close with my family. Very dysfunctional. I moved out with my then boyfriend (now husband) when I was 18 (20 years ago). My dad is not a bad guy but ridiculously bad with money and set in his ways. My husband convinced me to take him in because it was the humane thing to do and we thought he was more independent than he is. I had a ton of guilt growing up and I resolved it all thru therapy a few years ago. Well all my hard work is coming undone and it's ruining my life. I don't love my father. This is a burden. He's been irresponsible with money and has none. So I have him on every waiting list I can find for subsidized senior housing. The lists are years long. My husband doesn't want to hear me complain every day, simply about my dad's existence in our home, but I hate it. I want my life back. I don't want him in it. But there are no options. He has no where else to go. I can't even find him an apartment because he has no money saved and terrible credit. My husband does not (and cannot) comprehend my guilt complex and how my dad's presence is a cancer to my psyche. I can't stand that there is a problem with no solution. Just tell me I'm not alone in this desperation. Thank you for reading.