I am now the caregiver for my elderly mother and my elderly spouse. They both try to tell me how to do things, what to do etc. How to cope? I have now become the caregiver for my 86 yr old mother and my 75 yr old husband who health is failing. They both are very opinionated, with my mother trying to tell me what and how to do things, second-guessing me, etc. and my husband also trying to tell me how to do things and being very cranky. I fell like I'm caught in the middle of a nightmarish squeeze play. I love to do things like concerts, etc. and am met with disapproval from both of them when I do try to go somewhere like a movie or concert. I am starting to resent both of them. Also, they both eat differently from each other, so I now find myself cooking up to 6 different meals a day, all with no help or support. I love them both but I am my mental and physical limits. What can I do?