How do I have the conversation with my mom about her going into assisted living?
I have been caring for her for over 6 years in her home. Mom is almost 91 and in the later part of moderate stage dementia - she can dress herself and only needs a little help with showering and gets around okay with a cane. Has a low back issue which hurts if she stands for more than 10-15 mins. I have not worked for 2 years and have been taking care of her and helping her for over 6 years. I have some help that comes in weekly and take occasional 1 or 2 night respites and have a couple 5 day trips planned. I also started weekly counseling just to have someone to talk with about it all. My health has declined quite a bit in the past 2 years and I'm doing my best to maintain it. It has become increasingly difficult for me to deal with the situation and I'm starting to feel like I just do not want to do it anymore. I don't want to be my mothers caregiver, I want to be her daughter again and visit her like my other siblings do. My mother is still very aware and knows her mind is going. She has always been a worrier and a "glass half" kind of person. She is very sweet and loving and thanks me every night when we go to bed. I feel fortunate to have such a sweet mom. Her physical care is easy but the mental/emotional part is wearing me out. I feel like I just want to get away from her which is not a good feeling. She has some money but not a lot, enough for a decent AL with memory care for about 3 years in this area.