Should I continue encouraging my husband to see his father who is 2 states away or just bug out?

Eventually your husband will regret it that he didn't visit his dad before he died. It's a visit and it just might be the last. Nothing disruptive in getting closure and/or showing your love and support for your family.

I believe that your husband should go to see his dad. He should go asap. No one knows what tomorrow holds. I sure.that his dad would be pleased to see him too it may help his recovery too.

Hi there-
I am sorry your father in law is in such rough shape. My late Aunt was in the hospital with pneumonia. I was the only family member close by. I was not the health care proxy. The doctors gave me very little information for legal reasons. She was there for 2 weeks and I took the trip to see her almost every day. I called every relative and let them know she was in rough shape. I had no way of knowing the outcome. She died within 2 weeks.
I would suggest that if your FIL is in rough shape and is on a ventilator your husband should get over to the hospital ASAP to see what is going on. It sounds like a precarious situation.
It doesn't matter what his sisters say. They may have no way of knowing what the outcome will be. At the very least your husband will see his father. Hopefully he will recover.
Encourage him to go, and go with him if you can.

He doesn't have to disrupt their plans, he just wants to visit. What they want is him not to try to change what they are doing, but he certainly can visit his dad and can gently ask them if there is anything he can do to help , if no, at least he offered. Neil should let them know he is coming to visit,and will help only if needed, but he'd like to visit hiim......maybe the sisters will open up more and update your husband..Im not certain you should go, but Neil should.....

Your husband will only disrupt things if he arrives and starts telling them what they should be doing. He should certainly go visit if he wants to see his dad alive.

How would visiting his father disrupt his sisters' plans? If it's important to your husband to see his Dad, it does sound as if he'd better get on with it. If possible, it would be better to be self-sufficient in terms of travel and accommodation; then he can come and go without any possible inconvenience to anybody else.

I appreciate that it is frustrating not being kept in the loop, but I expect your SIL has her hands full; she may also assume that if you want to know what's happening you will ask. So do ask. Text enquiries are best, because they can be answered when time allows and you don't risk inadvertently butting in at a bad time.

Will you go with him?