My parents (91 and 95) live with me and my husband. One has severe dementia and the other with medical issues and hygiene issues. My father has severe dementia and mother is the primary caregiver. I do other things like take them to doctor visits, get their prescriptions, coordinate care, etc. I have a full-time job also. Mother now has gotten ill and is not able to do all the things that she did for my father and so I have had to step in. It is difficult taking care of two people with different illnesses. Now I myself have gotten a severe cold and feel very tired. I have nurses come in to take care during the week but what I need is an aide to help with my father (showering, dressing, etc.). There are some things I do not want to do and father can become very angry. I try to keep the house clean and sanitized but it is extremely difficult because they don’t wash their hands and I am constantly cleaning the bathroom because there is poop on the seat and no one flushes. To me this is totally unacceptable, but I clean it up. My own granddaughter will be coming to stay with us since my daughter is going to have a baby any day now. I am concerned about all of us getting sick because of their lack of hygiene. I have tried to keep on top of this. Can anyone tell me what else I can do? Thank you all so much. This site has been very helpful.