I'm a caregiver and my client was not taking my Medicare and social security out. Any advice?

Caregiving is really hard. I need to ask all of you, how you would handle this. Actually, my husband whom is usually rough and tough stated that what the client said (not the Alzheimer mother), but the daughter really hurt. I have been working with what I thought was a great situation, and it was, everything was great, and the word m.o.n.e.y.

First off, the silence, then me having to nagivate around and figure out what was wrong. Well today, finally after two weeks I got the answer. I was bent out of shape and said to myself, take the high road, be carefree. Well, I stood up for myself, but I will explain in the best way possible. My Client was not taking my medicare and social security out, and I talked to them about this. All year last year, no not a big deal, i will just file a 1099, until today, January 29, 2013, the words came out of her mouth. This is what I stated when I was hired, I am self employed and take the taxes out myself. Well, that I guess today is not the way she wants it, and even stated to me, I am 54, she is 31, my mother has Alzheimer's and has had it for 8 years, my mother lived with my husband .

I asked client what the reasoning was, and she stated that 99 % of America does this wrong and I should have never listened to YOU???? Yes folks, that is me she talking about, but she went into the I told her "this is an area that is gray to some people and black and white" she said I would like to have your takes taken out I said that would be fine. My first week there, no tax form and a check for the regular amount. Remember I am her employee, she is my employer, she turned this entire thing around on me, and the reason I did not get the hours, and her vacation was because she was so mad and "possible I better become more educated on this"???? People my client is a Paralegal, did not consult an attorney and is taking it out on me that she would like to do this. Literally, she continued, you know I could come back an get you for the back taxes, for some reason I held my cool and thought, wow, there is something really wrong with this woman, every week she changes the rules, and now she is blaming me for something that she did not have time for earlier.

She continued that many people just don't do anything and they pay cash, I said I pay my taxes, regardless of the amount you pay me, my husband and I are in a certain tax bracket.

What should I do and/or where should I go from here. I am self employed and have been paying taxes, now she is paying or going to pay penalties, and this woman is going to pay my medicare/medicaid and Social Security. Again????

Additionally, she mentioned to me that her sister in law is going to take over on Monday's. I see the writing on the wall, but what should I do. Not legally, but about the situation. She has no clue about taking care of her mother during the days all day long. She does have the emotional toll that all of us that have another or father that are suffering from this and other Diseases, it is very hard.

Thank you.