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Caregiving is really hard. I need to ask all of you, how you would handle this. Actually, my husband whom is usually rough and tough stated that what the client said (not the Alzheimer mother), but the daughter really hurt. I have been working with what I thought was a great situation, and it was, everything was great, and the word m.o.n.e.y.

First off, the silence, then me having to nagivate around and figure out what was wrong. Well today, finally after two weeks I got the answer. I was bent out of shape and said to myself, take the high road, be carefree. Well, I stood up for myself, but I will explain in the best way possible. My Client was not taking my medicare and social security out, and I talked to them about this. All year last year, no not a big deal, i will just file a 1099, until today, January 29, 2013, the words came out of her mouth. This is what I stated when I was hired, I am self employed and take the taxes out myself. Well, that I guess today is not the way she wants it, and even stated to me, I am 54, she is 31, my mother has Alzheimer's and has had it for 8 years, my mother lived with my husband .

I asked client what the reasoning was, and she stated that 99 % of America does this wrong and I should have never listened to YOU???? Yes folks, that is me she talking about, but she went into the I told her "this is an area that is gray to some people and black and white" she said I would like to have your takes taken out I said that would be fine. My first week there, no tax form and a check for the regular amount. Remember I am her employee, she is my employer, she turned this entire thing around on me, and the reason I did not get the hours, and her vacation was because she was so mad and "possible I better become more educated on this"???? People my client is a Paralegal, did not consult an attorney and is taking it out on me that she would like to do this. Literally, she continued, you know I could come back an get you for the back taxes, for some reason I held my cool and thought, wow, there is something really wrong with this woman, every week she changes the rules, and now she is blaming me for something that she did not have time for earlier.

She continued that many people just don't do anything and they pay cash, I said I pay my taxes, regardless of the amount you pay me, my husband and I are in a certain tax bracket.

What should I do and/or where should I go from here. I am self employed and have been paying taxes, now she is paying or going to pay penalties, and this woman is going to pay my medicare/medicaid and Social Security. Again????

Additionally, she mentioned to me that her sister in law is going to take over on Monday's. I see the writing on the wall, but what should I do. Not legally, but about the situation. She has no clue about taking care of her mother during the days all day long. She does have the emotional toll that all of us that have another or father that are suffering from this and other Diseases, it is very hard.


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Oh, dear. So the client's daughter is getting grief and the poor old caregiver is getting it in the neck.

Kaydeb, you are "collateral damage" - what's gone sour is not her relationship with you, it's the daughter's feelings about the whole bureaucratic hassle: she's made a pig's ear of it - not your fault, she probably does know that - but it's no wonder she's got a thumping headache and is in an incredibly bad mood. All you can do is offer to sit down with her, a big sheet of paper, your records and a calculator and try to figure out a way forward. Her mother still needs care, you're still the best caregiver in town and she won't want to lose you - once this is sorted it'll soon be water under the bridge. It's her own fault, true, but it does explain why she's being so crabby and unreasonable.

I just submitted my tax return: my business is on ice but if you don't do it anyway Her Majesty's Revenue & Customs will fine you. Fortunately "£0" is a nice easy number to add up. They still want fifteen quid for my last year's donations to charity, though :(
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CM in addition to paying their half of social security and medicare taxes the employer is required to carry workmens compensation insurance and at least one other which I don't remember as I have not been an employer for 15 years. it is an expense and a hassle. She also has to send those with holdings in to the state every quarter. She should also have applied for an EIN employer identification number. the amount to be with held has to be calculated to the penny from a chart in miniscule figures for each paycheck, It is not simple.
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Your employer will still have the same problem with IRS if her SIL (sister-in-law) is being paid to watch your client. She is still required to pay for taxes and benefits like social security, have 1hour lunch, etc... The only way to avoid all this is if SIL does it for free or is paid below the yearly minimum tax bracket which is definitely lower than $1200 a year. So even paying someone only $100 a month would become reportable income.
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Yes, the IRS is forcing the families to do payroll taxes when they hire a caregiver. Unless you have a written contract with her and you are a licensed agency who can charge fee per hour, you are her employee and the IRS will want to make sure you are not a terrorist or illegal alien too.
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I'm struggling to understand exactly what has happened. You have been paying your own taxes and contributions from the cash your client's daughter has given you, yes? No outstanding tax liabilities there. Is it the case that she ought to have been paying an employer's contribution, and hasn't done so, and is now in hot water about it?
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Just continue to pay your portion of the taxes... so that you don't get in trouble with the IRS. As your employer, she has more obligations with the IRS and on your behalf as her employee. If she wanted to pay "under the table", then she should have checked on a relative who needs the extra cash and "keep it all in the family." I always tell my nieces that nowadays IRS taxes us for everything - even babysitting and haircutting for money is considered Reportable Income. Good for you in standing your ground. Maybe it's time to move on.
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