I'm talking stress wise. Many people complain about how stressful it is to care for their loved one, but go to find out this person is in a facility with a staff. When you do it almost all alone 24/7 it's very different. Those that have their family member in a good facility should see how lucky they are that they can walk out of the door and know someone else will handle all the small problems. My mother (92) spent 8 weeks in rehab last summer, she was ok and I was free sleep the night through with out listening for her calling, someone else cooked and cleaned and kept her well, all I had to do was make sure they were doing their job. Let me tell you that's much less stressful than being the 24/7 care giver. All I'm saying is look on the good side of things. Don't just see all that you have to do,think about all that you don't have to do, because everyone here isn't that lucky.
I always say that the stress doesn't stop when we place our loved one in a nursing home. It just gets different.