You need to get help FAST. Get the Yellow Pages and find a care organisation in your suburb that can help out even if you have to pay by the hour until you can get your father cared for permanently (if that is what you want). Don't risk your life and that of your father.
Call a care agency in your area and arrange for hourly care for dad for a few hours a day or 24/7 for a few days. It will cost, but worth your mental health while you get some rest as captain suggests and can regroup and clearly consider long term options such as a residential facility for day, alternating his care with other sibs, getting part time caregiving help in the home, etc.
No shame in realizing you reached your limits. Better for both of you to know it, accept it and own it. Now you can find long term solutions that is in both of your best interest.
Can you speak to his doc and arrange emergency respite for 2 wks so you can get back on your feet? I know how you feel its exhausting work but my mum is early stages so shes ok alone for a few hours so i take break as much as i can. You cant do this alone for 24/7 without respite its not possible try and get help asap.
Mustanger tell us more...we're here to listen, but you're not giving us enough info to help. If you're still in crisis, call 911 and talk to the paramedics/firefighters about getting help for yourself, maybe in a hospital/emergency room setting. They'll have to do something with your dad too, assuming he's not able to take care of himself.
Caregiving for someone can make you sleep deprived..... I feel like I am having meltdowns when exhausted. The stress also triggers my fibromyalgia pain. You know, this sounds like an emergency..... Not sure what your dad's condition is.....If you took him to the ER , say for a mental status change..... and they admit him.... when it is eventually time for discharge, thats when you tell them you cannot care for him at home. Their social service team will kick into gear and you should get help you need. When you are overwhelmed to this point, it is an emergency. Feel better!
There is no doubt that caregivers emotionally attached to the patient can easily toppled over minor issues. Some can do it and some can not. I've always felt that research several care giving entities via word of mouth works best. Ask those that are already involved; senior centers, nursing organizations. There are many agencies that can stand up to scrutiny but often cost more than the independent caregiver. One can truly find quality care if you ask those already being involved. Caring for a family member full time can be very draining and respite help, even part time can add quality to everybody and their daily activities.
Well I think maybe you should get some help from family or find a caregiver that can help. I no some good agencys and people. But don't stress your self out. What is he doing.Then maybe I can tell you what you can do. Some time you just have to walk alway. I will keep you in my prays.
No shame in realizing you reached your limits. Better for both of you to know it, accept it and own it. Now you can find long term solutions that is in both of your best interest.
You are not alone.
Please post something. Worried about you.