Second post. As I wrote before my husband has dementia. Our beloved son 56 did not wake up last monday. We will not be telling my husband. Calls have to be made, a funeral has to planned and this is hard to do with husband in the next room. He keeps asking me if I'm all right and I say I don't feel well and didn't sleep, which is certainly true. My other son and i keep making excuses for leaving the house to plan. People keep calling and I have to keep going outside to make calls, etc. I will have to put my husband in a respite when the funeral approaches which he doesn't need yet and this will have to be lied about. Greg is being cremated which was his wish. He believed in a higher power but was not a church goer. We are planning a memorial service. Greg was outgoing, funny and loved people, and everybody loved him. A very large birthday party of his friends was planned for this weekend and they are making it also into a memorial for him. We are tentatively planning a memorial in ou town the following weekend, but the logistics overwhelm me. He lived 6 hours away and his friend memorial is 65 miles from us. Any thoughts are welcome.