I want to leave mom's house taking care of her. I need information on how to since none of the others will take care of her? I cannot get along with my mother. Even before she wanted me to move in with her and my disabled brother, I could not get along with her for more than 30 minutes. I make my mind up every day to intentionally disassociate from her. However, I am lucky if I make it till lunch. Or, more often till dinner.
She constantly is (poking=making remarks, suggestions and the like) at me till I can't handle it any longer. I have several health issues that make me more disabled than my mother (our primary care phys are the same) our doctor said to me. I know, I told her.
I am the eldest of 4 children of which live in close walking distance on the same family farm. The excuses are : My oldest brother works all the time. My mom says that and "he is so busy, give him a break". Well! my SIL is stay at home, and the Brother is busy however, not to busy to do whatever they want on weekends.
My sister never calls or visits and she lives the closest to mom..maybe 20 steps away. She is not able to see mom. Again, my sister got hurt at work and has had a surgery or two. However, she is well enough to just come sit with mom surely. Yes she is.
My siblings and I were never really that close to mom and day even though they stayed together and worked hard to keep us fed and clothed. We did not have affection from them. Never a I love you or anything. D and M just fussed all the time. We grew up with that bickering and fighting (not physical). I am the eldest and had to be wherever mom was because she always had something for me to do starting at age 7.
Now, I am worn out.. My husband died november 2009 and my father died July 2009. My daughter went thru a nasty divorce. I starting taking care of mom full time in 2011. No time for me and when there is a little, I am not phys. able to go or do anything.
I have taken care of my parents' bills, banking, calling, getting and ordering medicine, getting all doctor orders, picking up med supplies, just to mention a few. There's lots more. This started when I was 9 because my mother could not write, read, spell or drive. Yes, driving Ms. Daisy lol.
I got a divorce when my daughter (only 1 child) when she was 4 y.o. I was a single parent from that moment on until I met my now deceased husband in 2004. I AM TIRED.
I need desperately some help with leaving my mother's household and caregiving. I have been used all my life and we do not get along. MY health is suffering. Both mental and physical. I can't sleep ( cant fall asleep and then only get 4-5 hours uninterrupted sleep.
I am almost to my wits end..I have been a fighter but I am almost knocked out.
Please give me advice . I really appreciate you reading this posts. Thanks so much.