We live with my fiance's grandfather, who has Alzheimer's. His sibling will not help, his father will not help. They positively refuse. He has had to stop working, and is a cardiac patient. I work full time and his grandfather is awake while I am gone, but even when I'm home is too proud to ask me to even open a can. I am very worried about my fiance, as he is exhibiting cardiac symptoms again, is not taking care of himself, and our relationship is beginning to suffer. Placing him is out of the question at this time. He does not remember why VNA comes, he does not remember meals on wheels, he won't allow outside help. His friends from his lodge come to do things with him and he swears he hasn't seen anyone in months. I am so afraid for all of us. I don't know what to do to get respite for the patient and the caregiver. I feel bad that I can't do more. We've discussed having Hospice come in for respite, but grandpa just "fires" everyone who comes because he doesn't know them. His driving has recently been taken away, which has caused even more regression.
We are told "enjoy this time with him, it's not forever." "I can't see him like that." "I'm too busy."
What happens when my fiance has another heartattack? What happens if grandpa hurts himself?
I am at the end of my rope, and I need help. I refuse to see my fiance back in the hospital because his family is avoiding everything, and just does not care.