My mom, who's 83 and has been diagnosed with dementia, came to live with us 2+ years ago after my siblings took everything she had. They were all up in Washington state. I was kept in the dark but tried to do the right thing and bring her to live with us after her other 2 kids died of alcoholism. This is a crazy long story so I’ll try not to ramble...I brought mom home and got her with Kaiser/Medicare. She's had cataracts removed from both eyes and a total knee replacement as of December 2106. She's basically mobile but prefers to be left alone to watch her TV or read. She's "seems" to be coherent only when she wants to be and manages her bathroom and eating habits as long as we clean up after her. I have to remind her all the time and she doesn't like that at all. But, these are her personality traits as long I can remember so we have been patient. We are being forced by the IRS to close our small business after 30 years because we are not “solvent” on paper. Since we can’t pay over $80K in back taxes, now my 71-year-old husband and I must “get jobs”. So, we must file bankruptcy, and move in with my son, his wife and 3 little girls under 7. I am 63 and have health issues of my own. Right now, anxiety has me shaking so bad I can barely type this. Our lease on our rental home is up in August. We CANNOT take my mom with us and there is NOBODY else in her family alive that can take her in. PLEASE HELP!