As I reported before, Mom was placed in a NH hundreds of miles away from me. I am disabled, poor, and so is my husband. He has a touch of dementia. Mom recently had a turn for the worse and wasn't eating or drinking liquids. They got her to eat a bit and drink a little. She was sleeping most of the time and has grown quite weak. She is going downhill. I am able to make it there about once a month, but its a stretch. We have perfectly good NHs in my town but the POA says no to them. So my cousin just lost her mother. So she says stuff to make me feel guilty about not going to see my mother. She doesn't say this to be mean, just says it b/c she, like me, knows the end is near or not too far away. But Mom could hang on for another year or so. Physically she is healthier than me. About how often should I go see Mom? POA is wealthy, healthy, and young. She goes there quite often but won't take me with her. Right now I am feeling like I "should" go there. But its a long drive, I am in pain all the time, have an older car, there is no public transportation, like busses out here in the boondocks, the wilderness. The traffic is bad where she is and I am not a city driver and neither is my husband. The highway to get there is narrow but lots of traffic. I am just overwhelmed with all this. I am afraid she will die before I get there again. She was a very good mother. I was really blessed to have such good parents. If I press the POA for a ride, she says no. If I press POA to bring Mom closer to our city, she says no. So far I have not been able to find anyone who going to that city so that I could catch a ride. So to sum it up, I feel badly about not seeing Mom very often. What should I do?