What do you do when you cannot cope with the denial and being stubborn and selfish?

What's the history here? Dad still totally independent ? Dementia? Driving an issue? Are you the only person left for him?

Maybe he's just lonely and wants to be with his son or daughter (your profile doesn't state which)?

How was your relationship with your dad growing up? How long does he want to stay when he visits??? Is he a pain in the ass at your house? And what does he do in town if you're not around? If he has friends there...that's fine.

Could you provide a little more background, Countribumpkin? Is your elderly dad 67, 82, 94? Does he have impairments? What is he in denial of? Explain the stubborn and selfish claim.

It sounds like he wants to visit you once a week, Is that right? And you don't want him to because __________?

Just give a little more information if you'd like specific feedback.

guess the writer of this question was just venting...which is okay too...

I agree. I know the question posts don't allow for much detail. Dad is in denial of what? That you are grown and on your own? Yes, venting is alllowed!