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For about 4 years now my husband seems to have given up so he just kind of drinks beer every single day and when he gets depressed enough he’ll drink hard alcohol. I believe his liver has cirrhosis, he has a hernia that sticks out of his umbilical area about the size of a cantaloupe and his stomach is kind of hard. He says he’s in pain here and there but he’ll turn around and say it’s just his tooth. He also will not has not showered going on for quite some time now. My husband this past couple of months has been sleeping every I would say 20 minutes to half hour because he’s so tired. He seems like he’s talking in his sleep now because he he goes into a deep deep sleep and he doesn’t even hear what’s going on around him when he’s sleeping. There are times when it seems like OK he’s doing better but then he falls back into my worry zone I have called the ambulance him at which time he refuse service I have called the ambulance again where they did decide to take him but he refused service at the hospital and started to walk home so I took his oxygen level which is 81 with a pulse of 93 it goes up to 88 sometimes for the oxygen but then it goes back down he hasn’t shaven or bathed he doesn’t do anything but sit on the couch and watch TV and drink beer every day beer beer beer. He is an alcoholic he wants to drink hard alcohol but he hasn’t yet so I’m praying he doesn’t I feel so bad for him because he makes this noise that sort of sounds like he’s going Ahhhhhh, I don’t know it’s like a gasping for air because when you make that sound you’re actually breathing out but he’s doing it more and more and more and I don’t understand why he’s doing it he’s not cold to touch and he gets angry at me every time I try to tell him to go to the doctor or shower I am concerned I don’t know what to really do I love my husband but he won’t get any help I don’t know what to do any suggestions would be helpful.

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I guess u know 81 is not good. He is gasping because he isn't getting any oxygen? His pulse is high because he isn't getting enough oxygen?

There r nurses on this forum and I think a person gets to the point no matter how much oxygen they get, their body can no longer absorb it. They actually have carbon dioxide in their system which is suffocating them. If he won't see a doctor then I guess u will just have to wait till he passes out and call an ambulance. Ur husband is killing himself and you may want to look ahead.
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Can you limit the amount of alcohol in the house that is at his disposal. Have no hard liquor and get light beer. I am assuming he is not purchasing them.

Can you get him to a doctor who can diagnose him? I agree you should go to AL ANON meetings
I fully understand that it is up to the individual to want to change and I imagine he doesn't care enough to but maybe you can make certain steps to alleviate the desperate choices he is making.
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I am so very sorry. With his being of apparently sound enough mind to refuse care, there is little, I think, that you can do over his own wishes. He has made his own decision. You are utterly powerless to do anything but stay, love him as well as you can, or realize you can only save yourself and leave. You are not alone. This is the case for many in our country, indeed across the world. Please consider Al-Anon meetings for support for yourself. Hugs. I am so incredibly sorry for all you are both going through.
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I don’t know what I would do in your situation but I wanted to give you a big hug. So sorry this is happening in your life.
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