Can you give me any advice on how to transition my mother from her home to mine?

Hi Janet. As others have said, give your Mom her own space and choices within that space that make her feel at home. Allow her time to make the huge adjustment also. My Mom moved in with me 12 years ago when her husband past away. All is well with us and I have no regrets. Best of luck to you and your Mom.

Thank you.

What kind of condition is your mom in? What kind of help do you need to give her? If she needs a lot of care, you should definitely hire someone to help you ASAP. Even if it's for housecleaning and cooking, depending on her needs, it is likely that you will not be able to sanely do it alone.

And it WILL change your relationship. Well, I guess you've already been taking care of her so that shift has already happened. It is sad when mom is no longer mom and you are the new mom and she is....someone that needs to be cared for.

It would be good to read some of the other posts about the issues of having your mother live-in. Things to think about include making sure that you have some privacy – not mother watching you all the time and wanting to interact with you. Where mother will watch TV, and the volume; what temperature you mother will want, and whether you need to isolate a room at her preferred temperature. What payment mother will make from her own income – not just a nominal amount to cover food. Documentation of spend down for Medicaid. There are many more issues, and the actual transition is probably the least of them. There are ‘transition’ suggestions for moving day going to Assisted Living, usually suggesting that mother goes out for the day while all the furniture and possessions are shifted. It would be worth looking at ‘Care Topics’ on the top right hand side of the screen to find some of the many posts that overlap with your situation.

You are new on the site, and perhaps don’t know that many people have had serious problems after moving their mother in with them, and would advise against it if at all possible. Whether you agree or not, it would be a good idea to read a bit more widely about the pros and cons. One thing worth thinking about is to make the arrangement time limited – say three months and then we’ll see how things are working out. Long term promises can lead to a lot of guilt on one side and bitterness on the other. Good luck, and best wishes!

I assume she will have a room of her own. Will she have a sitting room to herself? I would have her bedroom with her own furniture. If she can't have a sitting area, then have her favorite chair and her TV. If she can have a sitting area, then put her as much of her living room furniture there. Hopefully, you can explain that this is her new home. I wouldn't discuss her home or the sale of it if she has Dementia. I would not take her back to it.