I am caring for my 91 year old grandmother with Alzheimer's. She moved in with me because nobody else wants to take care of her. I have no help. I have not left my home for 2 weeks. I can't even go outside to work in the yard because she constantly goes to the bathroom & wants me to watch her because she might fall. She has 3 children that won't step up. She had a nearly 200 acre farm that she has split between her 3 kids, 2 grandsons, & 1 great grandson (my son). My aunt took her to an attorney in January and had the last 55 acres split between her & my mom. The rest of the land was given to the others over 3 years ago. She held on to the last 55 acres because she rented it to a farmer & it was the majority of her income. Now that the land is all divided and she has nothing else to give they are all done with her. I have no rights when it comes to her. Her 3 kids have medical power of attorney & a family friend has POA. I am not strong enough to do all of this. I ask for help but there's always an excuse. I am financially & emotionally drained. I don't understand why in all of their minds they feel like it's up to me to take on this responsibility. If she goes into a home can they take the land back to pay for her care? I really don't want to put her in a home but I can't get any help at all and there's no excuse when there's so many within walking distance that should be helping. I can't keep letting them all hold the fact that the property will be taken over my head. I didn't get any of it so why should I be making all of the sacrifices so they can keep it?
You are being used. You have no say, no rights and it sounds like no respect from anyone. Let all those who have benefitted from her wealth handle the arrangements and leave. Nothing will change unless you change it.