I know dirtbags do.
Several years ago when parents were still getting around on their own, I helped them setup a bank account and have been paying their bills/other purchases out of that account for said length of time. My name is not on the account. I am not POA or SSRP. Just pay their bills and give them in hand what is left. But yesterday I discovered that live-in-sibling is trying to change banks and it is not a matter of if, but when.
Another stumbled upon piece of information during a visit. Sibling hurried the elder to their room, locked the door, and stuffed a piece of cloth underneath the door to muffle sounds. Elder began verifying information requested by agent. I kept hearing something about numbers and accounts so went upfront and grabbed another phone. I asked agent to allow me to explain to elder what was taking place to be sure it was understood and if that’s what was desired. If so, I’d make sure transaction went smoothly.
Needless to say, sibling was very unhappy and talking loudly over everyone to confuse the elder and perhaps the agent. Elder stated it was not understood and it wasn't understood in regards to the documents signed earlier at bank where sibling started the process of switching over.
I don’t know what to do. Elder gave permission for me to have POA and I considered that and SSRP but feel ? because I see what sibling does and don’t want to be accused of doing the same or of causing more grief. Of course, my reasons would be to protect.
Not only that, sibling is having the aides report back what they see and hear during our visits. I kid you not. Again heard during the visit as one of the aides hurdled in the room with live-in-sibling. At this point, I'd love to switch companies but lost my power to do so after quitting the job. APS is not making visits apparently and did not seem to have made a visit from first call.
What to do? What to do?