I met Joe at our 40th high school reunion. He was widowed three years in a sexless marriage. We met, and he claimed he had a bad memory.
His issues were present but they have gotten worse. He has a dx of Parkinsonism but recently went off his meds with the dr. He has stage 3 kidney disease too. I still love him. He claims he does not. His actions say otherwise. He provides for me financially as I am on disability due to a rear end car accident in 1996. He made me his POA and I am the executrix of his will. He also sees me regulary and feels a sense of pride in helping me with physical things. So often I wonder if he stays with me out of guilt. I can't read him. We were once engaged but due to my limitations and no help from his family, I canceled the wedding. That was 7 years ago. He has problems with being called partner. He's ok with "boyfriend, girlfriend." He claims he does not want to be in a relationship. He was very unfulfilled in his sexless marriage of 25 years. That was almost 13 years ago. He's has emotional problems unrelated to his dementia. He has mild OCD and I see some autistic traits in him as well. It could be the dementia. He does not like when the plan changes. He can't switch gears. He doesn't understand everything he hears. I know he relies on me and I believe in heart he does love me. How can someone say they don't love you. I still love him and am in love with him. I feel guilty dating but we know with his genetics, he'll be in assisted living. We already looked at them in my neighborhood. He's a good looking man. He's gullable. When a lonely new widow from his apartment invited him for dinner he went thinking it was innocent. I made him aware that's how it starts. As a result of that stress, I broke out in hives, so upset he didn't know what it implied. We are o.k. today.
What is normal with love and dementia? Does that just go away with the disease?