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I'm a 66 year old female. My daughter asked me to move in with her last year when she had her 2nd child. I was there to care for the baby. I am a nurse and because of being banged up in a car accident 10 years ago it has been difficult for me to work full time but I gave up my part time job in order to be there for the baby. I took care of him all day and night without complaints, it was very exhausting. The baby was 1 year old last week, it was decided that he could now go to day care. within 2 days of him starting daycare I was told to get out. I did nothing to cause this, however it's not unlike her to manufacture something and say I did it. a little background info on my daughter, she is bipolar. She found out she was pregnant again and decided to stop the only medicine that has ever made her calm. On the other hand she is taking another medication that is addicting and shouldn't be taken in pregnancy. im in Florida and would just like to know what my rights are.

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Allemonte--we also have a lot of assistance and services available for women in Alachua County. You can call the women's shelter and get pointed in the right direction.
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Look my sister is bipolar. I've found bipolar people are very difficult to "work with" and very difficult to impossible to compromise with.

I live in Gainesville Florida. There are tons of RN jobs her in town.
Shands/UF alone employs 15,000 medical workers.

There are a lot of light office RN jobs here.

I'd rent a room and pickup a part time light nursing job. If you can't find one in your town you can definitely get one in Gainesville and it is easy to rent a room in this town.
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Go rent a room . When someone uses you Like this - this is Not a person you want a connection with for the time being . Take care of yourself and get Out of there .
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I would rather live in a shelter than with my bipolar stepdaughter who refuses to medicate herself. Regardless of your rights, what's your peace of mind worth? You're willing to live where you're not wanted by a daughter who's taken terrible advantage of you if the state says you have the "right" to? That thought makes me shudder. Please realize your daughter is mentally ill and make preparations to move on with your own life now, relying on yourself in the future. Do not stay in your daughters home or move back in when the pleading begins again. People like this cause chaos and never look back. I can write a book.

Good luck to you.
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Unmedicated Bipolar disorder and pregnancy hormones all at once? This sounds like a real roller coaster ride. With an RN degree and an active license, you can pick up work doing telehealth for insurance companies such as Cigna. They have a nurse hotline. Have you considered Homecare or Home Health Care doing visits. I know the nurses here in THE DMV area do very well here depending on the agency they work for.

As for evictions, your daughter just can't throw you out on a moments notice. It takes time to get a job and resettled. So, what happens next once you get resettled and she has the second kid and her moods stabilizes for a split second. Is she going to call you back again? And are you going to drop your life again?

Bipolar people can be some of the most entitled folks I've met. I have quite a few in my family.
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JoAnn29 Apr 22, 2025
BiPolar entitlement, interesting. Besides being BiPolar my cousin is also a borderline genius. I always chalked up his entitlement because he was highly intelligent not to his BiPolar.
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I do know a RN that worked for an Insurance company doing claims from home.
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You as a Nurse maybe a mandated reporter.

As Burnt said, talk to the housing authority. Tell them you have been an unpaid Nanny to this baby for a year. You quit a job to be there for your daughter. What are your rights.

I so hope you have money because I would not stay where I was not wanted. If there is a father present, I would have a talk with him. I think two children is enough for someone with BiPolar. What happens to those two kids when she becomes manic or so depressed she can't get out of bed. If the father is not with her, he may want to get full custody. If not, then I would call CPS not so much to take custody of the children but to watch her.
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BurntCaregiver Apr 21, 2025
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She should most definitely visit the housing authority. They don't care about how much she watched her grandchild though.
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You jumped into a frying pan, didn't you?
Willingly. With knowledge of who and what daughter is/was.
Now she is emptying that frying pan into the fire.
I would beg her for 30 day notice, and immediately begin a search for work.

I do not have any idea what resources you have/had accumulated that allowed you to think that because you had a car accident you could just quit your job as a nurse. While you certainly may not have been able to sustain hospital nursing, there are so many other jobs not so taxing, and the pay is decent. Instead you gave up your own home (?) or apartment (?) and moved in with daughter. Clearly that didn't go well.

I am hoping you have resources enough now to get your own small apartment, or at least to be able to rent a room in someone's home. From there it is looking for that Office Nurse or other job that will sustain you.

You have been asked to leave.
This is your daughter's home. You must leave. And YES is the answer to your question as to whether or not she can evict you. How in the world would you think you could force your way into someone's home and stay there when you've been asked to leave.

I am so very sorry. This was a lot of really poor decision making and it has all now come to roost. Your daughter seems not a very nice person, but if the agreement was that you live with her and do child care in return for room and board, then she fulfilled her part of the contract. And has no need of you at present.

It is a brutal world out there. Brutal. You cannot afford to make mistakes that are this bad and sad. Let daughter know that you will be out, and when. Get a job. Try any ALF or Nursing Homes in your area first.
I am very sorry all this has happened.
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You should ask the Florida housing authority what your rights are. The part about receiving mail at your daughter's house may not apply in some states. Also, in some states if you don't pay rent you're considered a guest and can be thrown out in a second. Most likely, your daughter will probaby have to serve you with legal eviction papers which will give you some time.

I must say, I find it just a little troubling that you're very worried about what your rights are but really aren't too concerned about your one-year grandchild being left in the care of its bi-polar, pregnant-again mother.

Where is your daughter's husband? Or is it a non-residential baby-daddy situation? I ask this because if there's a father on the scene you should have a serious talk with him about what's going on. If there's not, you should contact CPS (Child Protective Services) and tell them that your mentally ill daughter has stopped her psychiatric drugs and is now using what I'm going to assume is a controlled substance and she's pregnant. The safety of the one-year old and the unborn baby are more important than both of you.

You're a nurse so you have a skill which is a well-paying skill. If you cannot work, you willl get disability. Move out. If the state has to remove your grandchildren from your daughter's care they look first to suitable family first.
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If yo have been getting mail there. If you have your address changed on your drivers license, or have a library card with that address on it this is your legal address and she has to LEGALLY evict you.
She has to go to court, fill out papers and a case will be heard in front of a Judge.
You will probably get 30 maybe 60 days to vacate.
With the back log of cases the court date will probably not be for at least 1 month AFTER she turns in the paperwork.
She can not lock you out
She can to put your belongings out of the house.

In the mean time you need to begin looking for another place to live.
You need to be looking for a job.
If your Nursing license is still valid, current there are plenty of jobs that would be available.
Nurse in a school setting
There are many Caregiving agencies that would hire a nurse
Many Hospice would hire a Nurse and there are some positions that are In Patient Units or Oven night mostly phone. And even the regular Hospice Nurse would not be doing the type of work you would do in a hospital in most cases.
Many private ambulance companies would hire a nurse for medical transport.
Just a few ideas.
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Her home is currently your legal residence and she will need to go through a formal eviction process to force you to move. This costs money (to file the form) and time (30 days from posting the eviction notice once her form is accepted). As a nurse, you are a mandated reporter. If she does anything that endangers her born and unborn children, you need to report it.
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It sounds as though the reason for you being asked to leave is that the baby is now old enough to go to child care. Perhaps you and your daughter have not been happy sharing the house. It sounds as though there are a lot of problems. You may be better off leaving as soon as you can, and staying on good terms if you can.
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If you got mail there within the past 30 days, it qualifies you as a resident meaning you have legal rights against immediate eviction. https://www.floridabar.org/public/consumer/tip014/
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I'm sorry this has happened. Is it safe for your daughter to be taking care of her one-year-old by herself in her current condition (caused by change in medications)?
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I’m sorry for your hurt in this, but do you really want to live in a place you’re no longer wanted, with a mentally unstable person, and small children who are exhausting? Seems the right move is to be elsewhere, in peace. I have a nurse friend who works from home, full time, for an insurance company making calls to the insured with health questions. There are other similar opportunities as nursing is a wide field. I hope you can find a job and living arrangement that brings you peace
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