Mom, 96, lives with me and my husband. She’s currently in rehab after mini stroke. It’s been mentioned by staff about having 24/7 care when she gets home. We are gone about 5 hours M-F from morning to early afternoon. I think insurance will pay for a small portion of the care, she will be responsible for the rest. But would it be appropriate for us to use her money to pay for cameras in our home, because we are not comfortable?
If you plan on this being long term the cameras will help a bit for the time you are gone. But with "age related decline" as you say in your profile I am wondering if this is normal aging or is it Vascular Dementia, Alzheimer's or both?
If it is Dementia of some sort she will need more than cameras to keep her safe. Either someone there 24/7/365 or placement in Memory Care Facility.
H'm. You could argue it either way, I suppose. The supervision is needed to ensure her care is being delivered as it ought to be (mother's cost). It is also there to provide additional peace of mind for you and protection for your home and its contents (your cost).
But continuous monitoring of the people you have entrusted with your mother's care is not the best start to the relationship. What are you uncomfortable about, especially?
Was mom a non-negotiable part of the house purchase?
I can understand why, never having had the privacy of your own marital home, the idea of caregivers being there as well might push me over the edge.
To me, when the doctors said mom needed round the clock care and supervision, that meant a staff of folks looking after her. Aides, med techs, nurses, docs, psychiatrists, podiatrists, dentists, audiologists. All in one place.
It was not perfect. But we got to sleep at night.
Can she transition to being a long term care patient at the facility she's currently in?
At this point it looks like she will be coming home in a couple weeks. I figure we have to try it. No cameras for now.
Yes, I’d rather she go to a nursing home. Don’t even know where I’d start that conversation, and likely get backlash from siblings. Just taking things one day at a time.