Hey all, a few of you may remember my previous posts about my grandmother who broke her arm, and only a week later had a massive stroke.
The past few days have been a nightmare. Though she is doing well, and in physical therapy (much to her complaints) the nurses and social worker are saying they can only treat her for 21 days and then have to send her home, regardless of her condition!!! It is just her and I here with no family support, and I KNOW I am not physically or mentally capable of caring 24/7 for a partially paralyzed dementia patient. The issue is, her daughter (my mother) has POA, and (with the doctors backing her up) has basically told me "oh, you'll do great! You always have. We believe in you" aka "we are going to take away the next 5-10 years of your life and you have no say in the matter."
I have talked to the area on aging, her doctors, and even a couple of elder care attorneys, voicing my concerns only to be told the same thing, without POA, I have no say in her care.
I am sick to my stomach, crying frequently, and scared out of my mind. Can they really dump full responsibility on me with no recourse? Am I able to just refuse and move out to let them figure it out? I know this must sound really selfish but I have been caring for my family since I was 11 years old, even up to when my grandmother has the stroke, and I honestly feel that they are not taking mine, or my grandma's health and safety into consideration.
I'm only 27, and even if it's a late start, I still have some chance of making a future for myself. Right now I feel like I'm standing before judge and jury waiting for a death sentence. I feel horrible for essentially punishing my grandma for something out of her control, and other people's lack of empathy, but I feel like I'm losing my mind, and am afraid for both of us if I get forced into this. And sugestions are welcomed.