This is like an ongoing saga...so after the dirty coffee table incident and after my mother remained shut up in her room for 4 days - like a thief in the night, she left in the middle of the day while we were at work. Without a car and no friends - I can only suppose the woman called a taxi and got carted around the city. She managed to close her bank accounts and get an airplane ticket and get to the airport. Someone picked her up when she arrived back in Iowa.
She left behind ugly letters to me and my husband. She wanted to tell me not to come when she died because she doesn't want me there. Her niece that she relies on let me know that she was retrieving her from another niece's house and bringing her home because she was in "bad shape". My eye!
It's been a month now. I refuse to talk to her and had my cell number changed 2 days after she left. If I hadn't, she would have made my life unbearable with calls and texts. The same old story - "do you love me? do you want me to come back? tell me you love me. are you going to be my daughter?" My husband is happier and is not such an angry bird. My son, and daughter in law will now visit us.
It's probably good that she is gone. I think my MS has made me less emotionally stable...I can't handle this kind of ordeal so well any more. My guts and gizzards are all ascrewed. Guilt rides on my shoulders 24/7.
My poor husband gets the texts - today was "I'm broke. You probably don't consider me family anymore, but can you send me money?" OMG!!!!! I am totally going to have a breakdown and die before I see my 65th birthday in 3 weeks.
Why can't I get away from the controlling claws of my mother and move on!!!