Can I be reimbursed from the state for taking care of my elderly mother?

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My mother is 82 and is declining. We just saw her doctor on 4/25. I also have a 60 year old sister who is developmentally disabled and I help my mom and sister by taking them to the bank, grocery store, hair cuts and medical appointments. My mother and my stepdad (died almost 3 years ago) and that's when I stepped up. I have two other siblings that do nothing or even a phone call. My sister had been able to hold down a job and has savings in the six figures and my mother has an estate worth in the six figures. My mother nor my sister have ever given me money. And I have been driving them around for 3 years. I don't work because I'm disabled (I'm in the process of applying for disability) and I spend what savings my husband and I have. I am resentful because we're using our future retirement money on my mom and sister. What can and should I do. Any answer would be helpful. Thank you.

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I want to thank everyone for taking the time to answer my post. My mother and sister are the tightest people with money I have every known. My mother has supported my sister all her life and it makes me resentful since my sister has money.

Neraf2015, how can I get a no trespassing warrant?

I do understand that I can't get paid by the state for taking care of my mom and sister. I just can't do it any more. I'm done. I go to two different doctors twice a week for myself and I barely can get there. Taking my mom is a chore. I'll have to talk to my mom about a nursing home and my sister may have to go to a group home. The stress is overwhelming. Thank you everyone for your responses.

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I share FF's opinion as well as concern and am wondering how someone who's disabled can manage to do so much driving. I would think that would negatively affect your own health.
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DeeAnn, the State will not reimburse you for taking care of a person who has an estate of six figures. It wouldn't be fair to all of us taxpayers.

Sadly you will need to chalk it up as one very serious lesson learned. If your Mom and sister need help, then they will now need to help pay for the caregiving, your Mom can afford it. Either Mom pays you or she pays an Agency for a caregiver. If she pays you, then you need to set up an employment agreement stating the number of hours you will work and at what hourly rate, and who will pay the payroll taxes.

Now my concern is that you have applied for disability, I wonder what the State would say if they found out you are caring for two people driving them here and there? And what if Mom does start to pay you for her care?
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I would make a list of what you do, where you drive, etc. daily ... once you have compiled everything together I would invite your family members over for dinner and bring up the situation and ask if anyone would volunteer to help, if not then I would ask what their suggestions would be, how much can they pay for help. You have a life and gave up a lot and do without BUT what happens when you are unable? If you get "static" or if you are "ignored" I would simply have a no trespassing warrant issued to each one ... My philosophy is "if you cant help while they are living then don't t come around at all because death is final and no one can help then, there will be no need to come to the funeral to pay your respect if you don't respect them now then why should you show up now, they don't need to help later its needed now. Good Luck
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You should tell your mom and your sister that they need to pay you.
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Also, I drive from another town that is quite a distance from my home. My mom wont move, I just don't know what to do.
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