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APS was granted guardianship of my husband of 40 years instead of his POA can they really not let him come home and take him away from me?

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Yes. They can. This is about what is best for your husband.
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Yes, absolutely. It may go to court proceeding, in which you would have to convince a judge that you are providing safe, adequate, clean and happy environment for your husband. They do not take family rights away lightly. What ways are they adjudging his care inadequate? Are you finding it difficult to provide that safe and clean environment for him? It may be best to have him placed, and visit him.
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Unfortunately yes, since we do not what the real problem is here, have you tried to resolve this matter with them? I wish you the best.
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You no longer have any control but I would encourage you to communicate with the guardian/s either directly or through the courts. They may or may not respond but will appreciate any input about your husband that would be helpful in his care. Unless there are extenuating circumstances there should be no reason why you can't visit him and spend as much time with him as you like, as long as you are within the boundaries set by the guardians. If he's at your home, they don't have as much control over him. We went through this with my stepFIL. The guardians were nice enough but very protective of his information, as their task is to operate in his best interest, not yours. So sorry this is how it has to be for you both.
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Are you posting on behalf of your friend, who is the wife of the gentleman whom APS plan to have admitted to a nursing home?

It's just it can get a bit confusing if we don't understand who's who.

And who had POA for the husband? His wife, yourself, somebody else?

You state that APS was granted guardianship, even though there was a power of attorney in existence. This does mean that the court has given APS the authority they need to make decisions on the gentleman's behalf, in his best interests; and if APS has concluded that his welfare depends on nursing care in a residential facility then yes they absolutely do have the legal right - nay, the legal duty - to make that happen.

That said, they do not lightly separate a married couple; and unless there is a very good reason not to they will actively assist the wife to conserve their marriage as far as possible. Very good reasons, by the way, are not necessarily anybody's *fault*,

Clearly, something went wrong; for the wife, the husband, both. If you wouldn't mind describing what happened then forum members may be able to suggest constructive ways forward. It's very sad to think of the poor lady feeling that her husband is being taken away from her, so I hope it will be possible to make this situation better.
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