I was told last night that my mother will not be with us much longer and this was confirmed by more than one staff person at the care center that my mom has been in for some time. The staff told me that I would be able to see her and that they would accommodate me visiting her in her room bc her situation was so dire and that she doesn't have long to live. They were unable to answer all of my questions (tho they did give me quite a bit of info) and said I needed to talk to a specific staff member which I had talked to several times in the past. She certainly seems to have more authority to provide info and has done so in the past. When I finally spoke to her, she said that she cannot give me any info, she can only provide that to the POA (I was unaware that there was now a POA). The POA is her husband and he is very likely incapacitated as well based on conversations I have had with the staff in the past. They have been very worried about him for months and wanted him to admit himself to the facility as well. According to the staff he hasn't been to the facility for a long time and they are worried. I have reached out to him and his daughter for permission to visit before she passes and I have not heard back. I don't know what to do. OR if there is anything I can do but I need to see her.
I'm sorry that your mother is in such dire straits.
The daughter has not been helpful. This was revealed years ago when my mom was left at their home alone when he had to have surgery at the hospital. She was found walking around the neighborhood in her pajamas and thank goodness her amazing neighbors were there right away
to help her. They contacted me and they all took turns staying with her and settling her worries about why he left .
This happened with me and the lawyer found out that my brother had a new DPOA drawn up and an amended trust and got me copies of both.
You might also contact your local elected representatives.