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Hello everyone, my name is Georgia and my sister is the caregiver for my mother. I am grateful she does it, but she has taken it out of control. She lets none of us talk to her on the phone, she has taken over all of my mother's social media,when we do call her she (my sister) gets upset and she threatens to block us because we're bothering her. So that is the question that I have. Is my sister allowed to deprive my mother from phone calls even if their regular phone calls, a hello?, A how are you doing? My sister wants to have control of everything. Today I called to say hello to my mother, and then I got a text message saying that I'm bothering her and that she was going to change her phone number. She (my sister) did not have any trouble receiving me when I was paying for everything but I became broke paying for it all and now I am a bother. I sent my sister money so that she can buy my mother a hospital bed and she bought an L shape sofa for her home. This is why I stopped sending her money. My mother always expects my phone calls.

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I'm sorry to hear about your family stress. To answer your question, the information needed is: does your sister have durable PoA ? If not, and no one has PoA or guardianship for your mom, then you have different options than if your sister does have PoA. Please answer this question so that you can receive productive answers from the forum.
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Georgia, have you had a chance to take care of your Mom for 48 to 72 hours on your own? If not, you may not fully understand all that is involved. I see your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia [per your profile] so that can be very frustrating for your sister.

Your sister is probably now resenting the fact that she had all this work to do with hardly any free time to herself. Thus, a telephone call from you is not only interrupting something your sister is finally able to get your Mom to do, but it is also a reminder that you have all this freedom and your sister doesn't.

Caregiving is exhausting working. Close to 40% of family full time caregives die living behind the love one they were caring. So, if you live near by, give your sister a much needed break from Mom by helping her out either by volunteering your time or pay for some caregiving help.
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Is your mother able to hold the phone and have an actual conversation? Can she read and post on social media or does she rely on your sister for all of that? Because if your mother is not capable of any of that......then you need to take into consideration that your sisters plate is full and she’s the one dealing with the burden of being full time caregiver. Also it doesn’t matter if she holds a POA for your mother. If she does, it doesn’t give her the right or the power to restrict access to your mother.
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