Has anyone butted heads with the primary doctor in what's best for your loved one?

I am so sorry to read that your mom just passed before Irma came through....I hope that you are doing okay..I know this is an especially difficult time for you...I hope that you are not in Florida and have to deal with the aftermath of a Hurricane...may God protect you and keep you safe.

Thanks for your support during this most difficult time with mom passing. Yes, we DO live in Florida, smack in the middle of Hurricane Irma, but mom passed the day before it hit, so she was spared listening to the fierce rain and winds banging at the window as well as the horrible racket of the mobile homes across the street being ripped apart. Now that the hurricane is over and some have been notified of mom, the quiet is eating away at me with the shoulda, coulda's.......if you get what I mean. I am wondering if this is a normal thing at this stage, but surely I keep feeling.....if I had done this or that.....maybe she would still be here. What a horrible spot to be in...for anyone. I am more aware than ever now how completely depleted I am....of energy, of nutrition .....and sleeping MUCH more now as well as taking naps. I tried soooo dang hard to give her the best care in every way possible.....and yet, in the end......I still see where I fell short due to such bleary eyed exhaustion. No.....I wasn't the perfect caregiver by any stretch of imagination, but dang......in the end, just seems it should have been better. I just sooo ran out of steam.....and now feeling the guilts and condemnation. Sorry to vent here, but I am just being honest. cadams

Oh please just vent away here! I think you deserve too. So sorry you are going through all this at once.

Try to find a Dr before worrying about it.

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother Cadams. You certainly sound like a loving and caring daughter. I hope you can find some peace in that.

Cadams, my sympathy. When my mom passed, a good friend who had lost her own mom years before acknowledged my feelings and told me it would get better, but "it takes a long time." Whenever I dropped into that pit of despair, it helped me to remember her words..."it takes a long time."
You did your best for your mom; you loved her and cared for her; you have this knowledge. Time will heal the heartache that reason can't explain. It just takes time.
My love and prayers for you at this time of change.

So, sorry for your loss...know in your heart know that you did everything possible...give it over to God....and let yourself heal...you are now entering another part of life..that is going to be trying and difficult to walk through......I know I went through Katrina in 2005 and it was difficult....I thought I was dreaming and praying each day when I woke ....it was a dream...but it was not...I cried often and still do..... know that you will make it through this......remember you are one of God's angels...and he has a plan for you.    Please be careful and be safe!

So sorry for your loss, you did a great job caring for your mom and I'm sure she knew how much she was loved and cared for. I wish you peace and comfort in the days ahead.

Cadams, so sorry for your loss.

Cadams, I'm sorry for your loss. I think the coulda shoulda woulda thoughts are natural, it is just our heads trying to make sense of our aching hearts. I hope you feel a little better about things soon.