Brother refuses to let me and my family see Dad with Alzheimer's. What can I do?

You petition the court for supervised visitation. It's up to the Judge.
IF you have proof of a crime, take your proof to the nearest DA office.
Proof means bank account records, transaction receipts. Any third hand information will get you tossed out of the DA's office.

What is your brother doing that he is misusing your father's money? Isolating your father is not a crime. APS will only step in if something major happens - like your brother leaving your father alone, and your father accidentally sets the house on fire, etc... Did you present these proofs to APS? And they still did not respond?

Other than that, there's nothing you can do. Is your brother POA over your father? If he is, then he can do whatever he wants - like preventing you and any one else to visit your father. Any possibility of trying to 'be nice' to brother so that he allows you to visit your father? Whatever you may think of your brother, don't let it show. Because the main goal is to visit your brother. From there, you can keep an eye out in the situation.

What you need is proof that your brother made these big purchases with your dad's money. Otherwise, you don't have any tangible proof of a crime.

If your brother is spending money on himself as POA, then he is breaking the law. Keep pushing, don't give up. Contact every agency you can find. I am POA and my sister keeps accusing my of being a thief, This is after she wrote herself a $3,000 check. I took her name off the signature card and turned all the financial information over to my Attorney. He send all 3 sibs a letter that he would be getting all the bank statements and sending a monthly statement of how the money is being spent. By the way, I have lived with Mom for 3 years for no pay. There is quite a lot of money on the line and they just can't wait to get their greedy little hands on it. But, I wanted out of the loop so have my attorney dealing with everything. Now they can call him and leave me alone to care for mom.

I have proof that brother has made some big purchases in cash. I believe with my dad's money

Brother has POA, that does not give him the right to use the money for himself? Dad lives in New York. Have gone to law enforcement and they have done nothing

What can I do. There is no way to make nice with brother because he knows I know he is up to no good.

Maybe a private investigator would have an idea. Other than that, all you have no proof and one must have facts not feelings that a crime has taken place.

Msmith201077, since you have no communicate with your Dad, how do you know there is a lack of medical care, and other items you had mentioned? Or are you assuming these things are happening?

Curious how did you get a Deed to a house that your brother had purchased? A Deed normally is presented to the new owner at the time of Settlement when a house is purchased. Were you present at Settlement?

I believe there is more to this story when what is being told.

The national Eldercare Locator, a public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging, exists to connect you with services for older adults and their families. You can call toll-free at 1-800-677-1116 from Monday to Friday, 9am to 8pm ET.
If you suspect elder abuse of a loved one, call the protective services agency in the state where your loved one lives.
2nd andswer: The Elder Abuse Unit of the New York County District Attorney's Office addresses the needs and concerns of older crime victims who live in Manhattan. In cooperation with the New York City Police Department, Adult Protective Services (“APS”), the New York City Department for the Aging, medical professionals and social service agencies, the Office investigates and prosecutes all kinds of crime involving elderly victims.
What is Elder Abuse?

This Office defines elder abuse as any crime or violation involving a victim who is 60 years of age or older. Examples of typical crimes committed against the elderly include:

Domestic abuse or neglect at the hands of a family member or caregiver;
Financial exploitation committed by a family member or relative, home aide, stranger or “professional;”
Abuse of a power of attorney by someone entrusted to act as a fiduciary;
Virtual eviction by drug dealers who haven’t taken over an elderly person's residence or building

How to get help:

If you are a senior who has been the victim of a crime, or you know a senior citizen who has been abused or exploited, please contact the New York County District Attorney's Office Elder Abuse Unit at 212-335-9007.
The services we provide include:

Investigation and prosecution of crimes against the elderly, including physical abuse and financial exploitation;
Assistance in obtaining an Order of Protection and emergency housing, in appropriate cases;
A consultation with the Elder Abuse Unit Coordinator in order to determine whether a criminal investigation and prosecution is warranted;
Social service referrals to agencies that provide a variety of services to seniors;
Review by the Narcotics Eviction Program for possible evictions of drug dealers from a senior's residential or commercial premises

Important Telephone Numbers
Manhattan District Attorney’s Office Elder Abuse Unit 212-335-8920
NYC Adult Protective Services (“APS”) 212-630-1853
NYC Department for the Aging Elderly Crime Victims’ Program 212-442-3103

Msmith, I am stunned reading your question. I cannot fathom why your brother is doing this, unless he is up to no good and is a controlling, mean person. Isolating a person from family and friends is one of the largest RED flags of an abuser, why the authorities don't see this is shocking. Of course, I'm assuming you are not a bad person...but then not everyone could be bad and your brother is refusing everyone access to your dad. I, too, would be very concerned. Has anyone seen your dad lately? If so, can they confirm that there is no physical abuse going on? Wow, what a sad situation. I think I would hire a private investigator as someone else suggested you do need proof. Has your brother given you or any of dad's friends a reason why they can never see him? Brinoz you have been great with the information you have made available! You said that dad has ALZ, so does my mom and usually seeing friends and family is good for these patients so that would be a flimsy excuse. This is so sad and scary. I will say a prayer for you and your dad and I'm sending you mega-hugs. Linda

Thanks all for your help. When brother was letting me see dad I saw first hand that I believe dad was being taking advantage of in his weakened state. It was clear dad was very sick and in my opinion showing all signs of advanced alzheimers. The research I did about big purchases by my brother was easily researched on the web