My brother is suing me because in the early stages of Mom's dementia she was able to make decisions. What can I do?

And if you have a criminal record you will not be able to be appointed guardian. There are Geriatric Care Managers that can be nominated as guardians and conservators. Find one or get an elder law attorney to help you.

Yeah, something doesn't make sense here...? "She wants them out of her will," followed by "She took them out of her will." All the while inferring she has worse dementia now than she had previously...yet she changed her will.

What is your question?

Maggie's question on whether or not the will was changed still needs to be answered. The statement that you're being sued also needs clarification. For what are you being sued? What are the allegations and the relief sought? Have you answered and/or filed countersuit? Hired an attorney to defend you?

In addition, you state that you are "her POA now"; were you holding that position when you signed her checks?

Here's what we need to know regarding the house. Did your mother execute a quit claim deed to you and your brother, each for an equal 1/2 share? Or is this a provision in her will?

How did you change the POA to your daughter? This just gets more confusing.

My mom deeded over 1/2 the land (acreage) & the home to my brother and then to me. He kicked mother out when he found out she gave me 1/2 also. When I read the post which says I cannot be her POA, I changed mom's POA to my daughter, mom's granddaughter, whom also, helps me with mom, taking her to doctor appts beauty shop when I am not available. I am countersuing my brother and my attorney is taking care of all and I need not worry about that any longer. Mom is doing very well as none of us are speaking of my brother at all. Mom is happier and is remembering things which are amazing me and my daughter. Mom's neurologist sees her and she took another test recently and she performed better on it than she did on the 1st test 2 years ago, that test was after she lost her husband to lung cancer. She was devastated to say the least.

She is in a very early stage of demential. She dresses herself and helps me cook and her hygiene is perfect. I am seeing some some short term memory problems. Not long term memory.

Tell us more about what your brother is suing you for. For paying your mother's bills with her money? Whether you had POA or not, he was not injured by that and I cannot imagine what he could successfully sue you for. So help us understand it.

Jodi, let me get this straight... your Mom owns land/house.... your Mom has in her current Will that you will get 1/2 the value of the land/house and your brother will get the other half of the value of the land/house. Or does your Mom currently own 1/2 the land/house, and you and your brother own the other 1/2 [1/4 + 1/4]?

Is the land/house already deeded to your Mother, you, and your brother? Sounds that way. Or do you mean when your Mother passes on that you will get 1/2 of the land/house and your brother will get the other half of the land/house?

Your brother is suing for 100% of the land/house? Or suing for his share thinking the Will had been changed?

This is also confusing, in your original posting you wrote " I am her POA now", then you wrote your daughter is her grandmother's POA.

Yikes, I am stressed out just reading all this. Best to tell your Mom the attorney is working it all out, don't worry about it any more. Don't talk about it. Only time to bring it up is if the attorney needs more information that he needs from your Mom.

"How do I help my mom stay stress free?" You have stated she has dementia, so she probably isn't able to comprehend or remember what you have told her. Don't talk about it when she can hear. If she asks, redirect her or assure her that it is taken care of.
As for the funeral, you can cross that bridge when the time comes. Again, reassure or redirect your Mom. Realistically, how would you keep them out if they showed up, hire a bouncer? It's not worth stressing over something that may never happen.