my brother is devoted to my mom but treats his sisters very poorly, we are useless girls and he is the man of the house-he is the youngest and thankfully has no control over our lives. My mom loves her only son much more than us sisters-she loves us too though and we accept that she is closest to him. She can see no wrong as he grew into a hot tempered unruly person who is very rude and controlling and hates his sisters-this was better controlled when Dad was alive and always stood up for us. I keep away from him. But he controls everything about mom-she lets him and supports him on everything.. We can only call her at certain times, she will hang up on us for him, do what he says, etc. now she is even more sick and he will not share who her doc is, who the part-time caretaker he has appointed, i cannot come and visit her, etc. he claims that he will tell me only what she needs me to know and that she does not want me to know these, which is nonsense, given my work at a hospital and she always asked health questions of me earlier. he is verbally very abusive, yells a lot and exhibits so much hate its scary-yet I have to kowtow, keep apologizing, because i have no info about mom otherwise. what can i do? i know he will take care of her but I am not sure he knows what exactly to do and we worry so much. its not right that he prevents us from even knowing basic things that we are worried about. am I wrong to want to know these since he is the primary caretaker? Should I just let it be? its too toxic even trying to get any info from him. mom and he do not live in the US, different culture.