Mom would give this to him if she knew it. After some heated conversation while I was making arrangements to move Mom to the IL/AL place she wanted and needed to live in because it has a few low-income units, I commented that I just don't have any more to give to this process. I have no money for her. I can't coordinate long distance unless our family friend, B, helps me. Mom and sister and BIL don't want B helping.
So now BIL is asking for her bank account info so he can monitor it. Not an unreasonable request since he will be putting money into her account.
But I feel like I need to protect myself. Do I? Or am I just being reactionary to this sudden twist?