Brother is abusing POA. What can I do?
My brother is POA & will call the police if I call my mom or try to see her. She is 96 years old & has dementia & osteoarthritis. Her mind isn't all there & he coerces her into saying things she normally wouldn't say. He gets angry with her & puts her in the middle of family disputes which really upsets her.
When she first became incapacitated, he wouldn't help saying he didn't have the time, but when she could no longer handle her finances he took over. The first thing he did was remove me as contact person for her doctors........he won't even let them talk to me. He also told them there is a no contact order against me which isn't true. Next, he had my name removed from her checking account that she had our three names on.
The local police are getting fed up since this is a civil matter & they keep telling him that.
By the way, I live across the street from her & he lives about 12 miles away.
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Sadly, there are other cases where family members have misused the power in a Power of Attorney document. One case with a surprise ending is here:
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/adult-children-sue-caregiver-176514.htm
my mother has fallen 4 times in the past 3 years & my son was the one who found her on the floor twice in one day. She had to be hospitalized after the last fall. My brother has now had my son served with an eviction notice to retaliate against my family because of the on going dispute. My mother wants my son to stay but my brother has taken control.
I've contacted elderly affairs, but they didn't take me seriously & when I last called they said I should get a lawyer. The last police officer that came also told me I should get a lawyer & to pursue this case.
The police and APS told me to get guardianship. That will over power the POA. Sorry to say it requires court and paying an attorney.
My prayers are with you.
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